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blackfoot,

I wonder what you mean by "contradictions and incongruence", if you're refering to earlier posts, I admit I came in here with views that certain people didn't appreciate. I'm not sure why you have to be a trusting person to talk to me. Have I done something on this board to abuse someones trust?

And I'm not sure what you mean by me having "a very specific adeptness at a certain skill". What skill is that?
I have tried to be as forthecoming as I can, maybe I get a bit carried away at times, but I'd rather have people angry at me then be dishonest.

Ok, having said all that here are the answers to your questions:

1. I'm not sure how much insight I can give you on being an asexual male. I just found out myself, and I'm trying to come to grips with it. So give me a little bit of time on that one.

2. I'm from a small town in Kentucky. I now work in Louisville.

3. I am the second youngest of 8 children. 5 girls and 3 boys.

4. My diet is nothing special...I eat meat. Eat vegetable and fruit as recommended.

5. I am 34 years old.

6. I never looked forward to sex ( I mentioned this in another post) I really only thought about sex when the topic of having kids was brought up.

OK Marvel, in the spirit of blackfoot, I'll ask a weird off-topic question. It will help me understand your POV some. If you don't want to answer it, don't bother.

How do you feel about creation science and intelligent design? I'm not looking into getting into a long discussion/debate on the issue, as this is not the proper forum. I've just found that this helps me understand people's perspectives, especially on religion. And as you have stated that religion is a major player in your world view, it will (I think) help me understand your sitch better.

To let you know, people who support YEC or ID, tend to adopt a much more fundamentalist/evangelical approach to Christianity than the mainstream. This viewpoint often bleeds into other perspectives such as sexuality.

Regards,
Chrome

This is a short overview of my beliefs on Creation Science.

I believe that the earth, its life forms, and the rest of the universe were created by God fewer than 10,000 years ago. Only very minor changes within various species have happened since creation. No new species have evolved or been created. I believe that God inspired the authors of the Hebrew Scriptures (a.k.a. Old Testament) to write inerrant text. I also believe that the six day creation interval described in one of the creation stories in Genesis represents a 144 hour interval.

So this is my belief in a very general sense.

Gotcha. Thanks. Again, no reason to debate it here, just forming an overall picture so that I can respond more intelligently to your posts.

Chrome

Marvel,

Its interesting how heated exchanges tend to bring out certain aspects of our core personality as our hot buttons get pushed. I’ve certainly been there myself. Maybe it is good things are heating up on the other threads.

So bringing this back to your thread, have you had any exchanges like this with your ex-wife?

Ohhhhh yes.

We used to fight about religion all the time.

You see, i believe in what's called the "New Earth Creationists" Theory. Whereas, she belives in the "Old Earth Creationists" Theory, which states that geology and radiometric dating has shown that the world is billions of years old. She believed that God created the Earth itself, the earth's life forms, and the rest of the universe at that time. So in fact, she believes in the literal interpretation of an inerrant Bible, interpreting the six "day" creation interval as occupying a very long interval of time.

We used to go back and forth all the time, but they really made for some interesting debates.

Marvel,

Nothing wrong with a good philosophical debate. I love them too. But personally I don’t give a rat’s ass about your creationist views. My point is that your position seems to be set in stone with no options for alternate opinions. You have no proof for your positions and neither does anyone else have proof to disprove your position. When you scream that you are right, just who are you trying to convince and why? Why do you care whether your wife or anyone else believes as you do, especially if it is all not provable?

The answer is because you require confirmation of your views from others to maintain your sense of who you are. If someone disagrees, it is tantamount to an attack on you and your integrity. Ultimately you have no confidence in yourself. This is enmeshment. BTDT (been there done that). Religion, sex, money, politics, it doesn’t matter. An enmeshed person will launch into an argument with someone who disagrees with him no matter what the topic.

The irony is that for your blind devotion to the Bible, your arguing and narrow point of view is really hypocritical to what you say you believe in. I’m not knowledgeable about the Bible, so I’ll leave it to others to quote any passages that might explain this better.

I’m still waiting for a little more information on your background.

Marvel17:

Maybe we should ask what IS permissable in your definition of marriage and sex? I am to understand correctly that sex is ONLY to create children and after you have a couple kids, your done having sex for the rest of your life?

"and neither does anyone else have proof to disprove your position"

Au contraire! But that is for another forum.

Marvel.

Thanks for the responses.

frankly I would love to hear about you, your marriage and your sexual viewpoints, since you are an asexual male.

But your argumentativeness, attacks on others, and disregard for the rules here is getting me bored with you beyond that interest.

Im not one for rules much myself, but If I dont like the rules in a place I move on. I hope you choose to add something instead of continuing to be a negative sucking energy.

Have you ever had your Testosterone checked? what was the results? its usually given as a (x)ng/dl or (X)nmol/L

There is also a genetic variation that is called a xxy.47 instead of 46 chromosomes. Its referred to as Klinefelter. Ever hear anything about this, or considered it?

Hope to hear something interesting from you. Im sure Ill be safe from any potential virtual terroists that may pop up here, but I appreciate you wanting to protect my fragile mind.