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Hi,
I talked to a friend yesterday and she told me about this girl I went to university with. Last time I saw her was at my friends wedding two years ago. She had been married a little over five years and she and her h had a three year old son. Feb. 2001 she told my friend that she was very unhappy with her life, her husband etc. and shortly after she and her little son moved out. They had just bought a nice house a while ago in a suburb and she just wasn't happy anymore. She took a small apartment in the center of the city and she told everybody that she wanted a divorce and did not love her H anymore. Her H was really breaking apart and she was enjoying her new life. She had four different boyfriends and the fourth one actually moved down to her town just to be with her. She filed for divorce and I was sure that she was divorced by now. Well, my friend told me that they did not go through with the divorce and that she is back with her H again. I don't really know too many details but somehow it made me feel good to find out that things turned around for them.
Heilaw

Hi to all;

Thanks for the great stories. Wow - we must believe that ANYTHING can happen. We must always have the PMA, and the faith, and the will to do our best to help make it happen for us.

I hope I can post one too someday, but that will be a long way off for me. But, I'm not giving up on my marriage! The alien is the devil right now, but I have faith my H will get back on track eventually.

Thanks for the inspiring stories!
MomOfTwo

Hi all

For a new "success story", see Juice's new thread entitled "He cancelled the trip!!!" The trip she speaks of is her H's planned trip with his OW; instead, he decided to come home.

Faith HOPE & Love
These three remain,
Maree

Mom of two, my H dropped his bomb on Feb. 21st 2002. We have 2 teenage sons. H never did move out, in fact I did (to give us each space)in April for 1 month because his ups and downs were getting to me too. He asked me to come home after 2 weeks. NOT to start over with us (his words) but to get me back in my own house and back together with my sons. Since I have been back however he has seemed more at peace and little by little (very little by little) I am seeing baby steps. Yes the kids did have A LOT to do with him not D'ing me, he got close. But decided he didn't want to put them through a D. Sometimes I think he's only with me now to keep things the same (finances,etc.)and that one day he'll say that he just can't do this anymore and wants out for good this time. But as time goes by I don't think so, he's a little more responsive all the time. I told him I didn't want to live in an affectionless/loveless marriage and he said he wanted to work on that. We have a long way to go because a lot of damage has been done in 19 years. Luckily there was no OW. I'd say we're on the road to recovery. I never believed he was totally out of love with me, but I think he wanted to be. He was fighting his feelings. Now I'm concentrating on being the wife I should have been for all those years and even trying to be a girlfriend to him at the moment. It's kind of fun! We're going away to a cabin by a river this Saturday and when I told him that he wanted to make sure no one else was going (other adults.) I said "nope, just us" Not even the kids. This is a VERY condensed version of all that has transpired in 5 months. Good idea for a thread. take care, Lisa

saw that this great thread was about to go to the archives so I'm posting again to get it on the top again. Come on!! there must be more. It gives us all hope!! Lisa

4/12/98 H said he was moving out.
6/1/98 H moved into a condo that we had been renting out.
1/06/00 sold our house. H had me move in with him. 1/1/01, said he wanted me to move out.
2/01, bought another condo for me. Redid condo interior. I moved in 4/21/01. I tried to go dark, but it is almost impossible because we own a business together, so I see him everyday. On the weekends, if he doesn't hear back from me when he calls, he calls our married children to see if they have heard from me, or know where I am. He is coming around slowly. He now puts his arms around me, kisses me and tells me he is proud of me. We have been doing a lot of fun things together, and travelling too. He still hasn't told me that he loves me, since 2/14/98. But last week he was talking house plans and lots! Two years ago I told him that I would like to repeat our vows on our 35th wedding anniversary. I told him also that I will not live with him again until we do that. That is not going to happen, because our 35th is in 3 days. I do have high hopes. He is changing into a better person. We have both been treating each other with much more respect than in the past. DeeBee

I'm pulling this up as I dig through the archives. Some of the newbies need to read the success stories. They don't abound ~ but there are some here. Enjoy! I will see what else I can find.

Barb

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Love to see stories of divorces turning around, especially since I'm in the middle of one.