Sorry about the turn of events. I understand your angry about the comment of the nervous tic. Of course truth be told H has a habit of instead of simply putting his arm around me or touching my arm he rubs me where ever his hand is. Setting my nerves into a raging blither. So I am probably as guilty as saying something as thoughtless as your H did. My question is why did H not feel like he could share this with you last night while it seemed to be bothering him so much. And were you a aware that something was bothering him prior to his comment?
karen, I really feel for you... and if you think it's warrented, you can kick my butt to kingdom come and back for the following comment: this man is not behaving like a man who wants a baby.
Lil, no reason to kick your butt. Having a baby, like everything else in life, happens in the middle of life - the good times and the bad. This is the reality. It is how these things get handled that determines anyone's fitness for parenthood. Sex tonight? I don't know. Not sure if I'm up for it. We'll see.
Chrissy has an excellent point. After a long convo with H I think I have come to understand better and partially forgive. This man, his friend, spent the better part of an hour personally attacking my H, analyzing his life, his motives and coming out of it saying - therefore, I don't care about you anymore last afternoon. Then, H might have spoken with me about it except that my parents had to be picked up at the airport and then we had cake for my Dad's bday. By the time the touching incident occured H was tapped out mentally and physically. Thus, like Chrissy, H reacted. He didn't feel like being physically touched at that moment and didn't feel ready to discuss things - he hadn't sorted them out himself yet. No, I had no way of knowing that this convo had happened before.
H did apologize for being insensitive and I did apologize for sort of prompting the conversation on Sunday. I recommended he call and give things one more shot then he became a sitting duck for pot shots. I do know that my H does kind of regard my need for touch to be some kind of unusual aspect of my personality. Let me just interject that I am not following H around grabbing at him constantly or anything.
I think I need to use Mojo's reasoning on the other thread - H, I love you and I want to touch you. You have a right to ask me politely not to or to do it differently. However, I may be hurt by that request. And it is my right to feel that way.
