No, that doesn't work. That's what I do mostly anyway, and he knows it is an invitation to up the ante. What usually happens at that point is he falls asleep and then I realize that I am not playing my cards very intelligently, lol.
Last night, I was being bitchy and just shut him down which I know is not very intelligent either but the weird placating little boy comments were bouncing around in my brain and I suddenly became un-horny. It was weird.
I actually had the thought the other day that if my H looked at porn, he might find it easier to get himself worked up. As many of you know, he doesn't look at all and so his only experience of 'sexy female' is me and I'm sure he gets bored as hell with it.
I actually meant more over the long-haul. What if you just ignored lame advances for several nights, weeks, monthes in a row and didn't initiate yourself. Do you think that he would eventually come on stronger? I've found that to some extent I can trade-off frequency for "show of manly desire" in my relationship. Unfortunately, I think this is due to the fact that if I don't complain about frequency my H starts to wonder what I'm up to.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
