Lillie: I was referring to the topsy-turvy dynamic of HP's marriage. The chapter in Michele's book about "arousal and desire", the first time I read it, seemed to apply exclusively to females. Here, however, is a man who needs to be aroused, by someone else, in order to feel desire for her. It just seems so strange to me.
Hairdog, who can't fathom what antecedent might have been unclear, and, instead, will blame Lillie, who needs to stop letting her bf drink SOFT water. And, needs to stop shopping at WalMart.
The problem with us (HDW) is that the thing that makes the "no panties" scenario and many other scenarios more sexy is the "unobtainability" factor. I mean ideally you would be out at a restaurant sharing a romantic dinner with your H and you would slip him a note on a napkin that said "I'm not wearing any panties.". I think you could probably measure pretty accurately how HD a man was by how he would react to this note. My H would quite possibly do something like crankily say "I'm trying to eat my dinner.". I imagine Mr.HP blushing and getting very quiet as he glanced around nervously to make sure nobody else could possibly get a peek. OTOH, Hank would either:
A) Fling some money on the table and hustle me out to the car for some action.
or
B)Look me in the eye put his foot between mine beneath the table and say something like "Your legs are touching. Spread them a little, baby. No, more. A little more. Yeah , that's nice." and then keep me waiting while he leisurely finishes his drink.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
My H would smile and ............do nothing. I HATE those women's magazine articles that tell you to do exactly that sort of thing. They are such a FLOP at my house.
Quote: I HATE those women's magazine articles that tell you to do exactly that sort of thing. They are such a FLOP at my house.
DITTO. Every single one at the checkout has one article like "20 Moves Your Man Like Most" or "Hot Tips from Hunky Guys" on the front cover. I think I've actually found myself glaring at them as I wait in line.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
"I mean ideally you would be out at a restaurant sharing a romantic dinner with your H and you would slip him a note on a napkin that said "I'm not wearing any panties."
Why hustle outside or wait? If it is one of those nice restaurants with a long table cloth, I would lean over and whisper in her ear "mmmm, let's see how well you can maintain an air of quiet dignity in this posh restaurant" and slide my hand down between and ...
Of course, I can't see my W slipping me such a note, so I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum.
Chromo
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
I can still fondly recall a particularly sweet moment with the gf I had between ex-W and W. We were at the local movie house, watching the premiere of "Godzilla" (the one with Matthew Broderick). During a particulary boring portion of the movie, I leaned over to kiss her, slid my hand up her skirt (hey, no one else was in our row), and discovered she wasn't wearing any panties. "Hey!" I exclaimed, "you're not wearing panties!!" The secret was out, to me, and about 25 other people in the theater within earshot.
Yes, you can take the man to the movies, but, wear no panties and beware the boy lurking within.
Quote: Why hustle outside or wait? If it is one of those nice restaurants with a long table cloth, I would lean over and whisper in her ear "mmmm, let's see how well you can maintain an air of quiet dignity in this posh restaurant" and slide my hand down between and ...
...Ding, ding, ding. HDM detected.
See gals, my theory was correct. So if we ever find ourselves single in the future and want a sure-fire way to separate the HD from the LD we can just apply this test.
Okay, Okay one good result does not a theory prove but...
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: Sorry folks, didn't mean to talk like that. Just got worked up a bit. My apologies
It's okay. You were doing it for a very scientific study that will benefit the whole of HDW humanity (which contrary to CeMar's beliefs is much more than .02% of the population).
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
