Lass, I could have written that post myself. These men are *frustrating*!
You know, it was not the setback that worried me. It was the fact that he didn't respond to wanting to get back on track. He waited until I got mad. That positively reeks of The Way Things Were. And I'm disappointed in myself that I went back down that road so quickly and eagerly.
I guess I will just chalk it up to a difficult time in our lives and keep pluggin.
"Oh gosh no. H has Chrome-type self esteem. If I ever did not give him his props, he'd say "Oh I deserve it...I *do* suck at my job and deserved to get terminated and you poor thing you are stuck with me and...and..." and so on."
Ouch!
I hear you.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Some days are just SO difficult being at home with 3 little kids. I know this is not the correct bulletin board for such a sentiment but this is my home so it's going here. Baby has a milk intolerance (allergy??) and is inconsolable due to terrible diaper rash. Endless...and I do mean endless crying jags. It wears on me and makes these long winter days seem endless. Have I said endless enough. Lord there is not enough money in the world to pay one for doing this job. Crimanately just let me make it through the day!
Hi HP, (((((HP))))) Your sitch is unbelievably and freakishly similar to mine and your H sounds like a carbon copy of the one I've got. Constant need for WOA and propping not able to prop in return. Only manage to give a bit of practical support when directly requested etc.
We are a little further on from where you currently are. My mum died in Nov 2004 and it was exactly the same thing H did not deal well with me not being my usual cheery self. He handled it OK until she actually died by being helpful in practical ways but literally the day after the funeral he had a screaming row with me basically telling me I had to get back on with propping him up now it was all over. I tell you HP I have never felt so abandoned in my life. Grief takes a while and this past year has not been good with us. But we are slowly making progress again and I am slowly getting my energy back to the old levels. So there is hope but I guess you will have to hunker down for a while and get your support from more reliable sources. Just know when he acts like an a$$hole he is not the only one and your natural happiness and cheery nature will pull you through this
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
All I got to say HP is I spent several days at home all day with the kids over the xmas break, and it was freakin' difficult. I already had loads of respect for mothers, I gained a LOT more then. You moms are the best, doing a job that no sane person would apply for if the job description were completely spelled out on monster.com. The fact that you do it with such indefatigable love in your heart makes it even more impressive.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
SAYM's definitely do not get enough credit. I can think about how I feel when my S would cry inconsolably when he didn't feel well and how wearing on me it could be. You love that little one so, but you can't help but just wish for a break from the crying to help sooth your rattled nerves....and kind of take a mental breather for a bit.
Thank you all. Neighborhood kids are here to entertain the other D's and H will be home in a little while. Amazing what another adult does to lessen the load, and I'm not talkin about chores. I'm talking about the MENTAL aspect of listening to the fussing all day and knowing that you're all alone. Pity parteeeeeeeeeeeeee
Anyways, somehow made it through the day. Just managed to clean the house (gotta do those AOS you know) and clean some work shirts for H, now it's off to cook supper. If the baby'd get off my pant legs at the moment I might even be in a good mood.
Come on, sing it with me now. The..................sun'll come out.......tomorrow.....betcher bottom dollar that tomorrow there'll be SUN. Just thinking about tomorrow...
Oh, Honeypot. Boy can I relate to you this afternoon. The last two hours have been "pull my hair out" territory. I'm actually going into the basement to do laundry just to get away from those two devils for a few minutes. That should tell you something considering how much I love housework H just got home so should be taking over for an hour of so and then the kids are off to bed. Ah, heaven. H has been hinting at sex all day so might get lucky tonight though Hope your day goes better tomorrow. (I used to love Annie by the way).
I'm not minimizing your issues at all and I'm sure you don't want to hear this but believe me when I say this. When you have 4 teenagers in the house (19, 18, 16, & 14), the days you are describing are known as the "good old days". Actually I usually only have 2 as the oldest two are away at college (of course the oldest two are the least problematic). Teenage girls are definately the spawn of Satan.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
I’m sure you know about this, but just in case, have you tried Nutramigen brand infant formula? It’s hypoallergenic. We used it for all our kids. Since I’m half Japanese, I am intolerant to milk. It worked well for us. A little more expensive but worth it. The grocery stores usually have it.
And I agree with Baltoman. Beliive it or not, you are in some of the best times of your life!
