not posted for a week or 2 as my H is on holiday so not much to update on. To be honest has been quite nice, as not had to think about it as much.... Anyway he is back at the weekend and am dreading it in a way as I know I will be itching to ask him questions such as, did he meet anyone on holiday? is he still seeing the OW?? but I know this is the last thing I must do.. Must smile, be happy and stop myself from quizzing him!!
We did text each other this morning and what happened was really quite strange. Kind of goes againt DB principles. But i had been texting him alot more than he had me, so when he text this morning I had a bit of a go at him, and told him i was getting fed up basically making the effort with him and getting no response... He came back and told me that the reason he had not been texting me much was because he was on holiday and he wanted to stop himself from asking me questions about what i was doing and how things were going with my BF!!
so, i confronted him, and actually found out why, which was nothing like i had been thinking... I thought he was not texting me becuase he had lost interest basically, which is not the case...
My weekend has been very eventfull the say the least!! H came back - tired / jet lagged / and his heads fully in the clouds!! I asked him what thailand was like, and he said, well I can tell you everything if you want to know? To which I could not help myself but say yes... Didnt like what I heard - basically he has had 2 weeks of complete papmering from call girls!! The girls basically let the men buy them for a week, and go and stay with them 24/7. The men pay for everything and the women are basically servants to them... anyway he had one girl for a week, and he has got her number and she has been texting him... When he first told me this I blew a fuse......went mad, and basically we had a terrible 'welcome home day'.... Argued most of day etc etc etc.. Anyway calmed down after a bit and things was ok. Me and my D came home, and he went out to for a drink with his mates, then was going over to see his OW. anyway about midnight me phone was ringing, it was H... On way back from seeing OW. He said ' can i come and get in bed at yours? '. He wanted to see our D in the morning before he went back to work. So i just said yes if you want. He came in, and I really did not say much too him.. HE said to ' I should have stayed with you and D tonight. OW has just got on my nerves and annoyed me, so I just left'......????? That was it - went to sleep... Woke up this morning, and again I just didnot say alot... He started to talk about Thailand again, and how one of his friends he went with was going back and looking to bring one of the girls back to the UK.. I was very calm and just listened to him and made the odd general comment now and again.... I kept seeing him looking at me, and he kept touching me and kissing me as I was getting on with things... I said to him jokingly ' its a good job I am so broad minded isnt it'... to which is said very seriously ' yes, you are pretty cool about all this'.........
So??? what have i learnt from all this??? 1 - OW is starting to put pressure on him and want more from him and he is not liking it........ 2 - Do opposite from OW. Take a step back and chill.. Let H get on with it. Dont ask too many questions and dont try and tell him what to do.... 3 - Let him come down from his 'fantasy' holiday on his own - which he will... dont try and tell him how stupid and silly and gullible he has been... let him come back to normality on his own... 4 - chill out and be calm, and happy and in control when around H... Start doing 180's such as not asking him about OW at all.... Not asking who his texts are from if they come through whilst he is with me.. 5 - carry on having a good time and going out with friends as much as possible. 6 - BF??? just dont know what to do??? like talking to him and seeing him now and again but just dont want anything too heavy...
