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WCW,

Glad you had some smiles tonight! I love weebles too BTW

When you get a chance, could you please come to my corner of the BB and share some of your wisdom? I'm hitting a wall with my feelings right now... or lack there of. When I read your determination, I wish I had it.. gosh, I wish I had so many of your qualities! I'm plodding along, but am so afraid I'm not going to "get there" in wanting to really commit and put my heart back into our R. Do I act as if? Do I just keep trying to make every day better and hope the feelings come back? Here I am with an H that says he wants to work this out, and I'm finding myself unwilling to venture out on the limb again after so many false starts and lies. How do we know when we should give up.. or when we should keep going? Is it just a decision that we make once, or something that we strive for every day?

Thanks!

Sheila

adding your thread to my favs!

Hey WCW, stealing a quote from you from another thread..

Quote:

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I forgot to pick up some beer! here I am, have the whole night alone to myself, and no beer to get myself drunk for the first time in my life.

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I have some beer. Come on over.

And did I see you live in WI? Why did I always think you were in the northwest somewhere?

Actually, you sound pretty good today. Good for you.

Hey Piglet, I'll wobble on over. Sorry you're having a tough time. I've asked myself a lot about my life as it was, as it is, and as it would be with or without H. For now, and I hope for the future, it will be better with him. But there is a LOT of work to do. Is it easier with him or without him?

bigAl, where have you been? You didn't know? geewhiz, I thought we were friends and you kept better track of me than that. I know, I know - so many woman so little time, and you're a busy boy. I'm not coming over though, you'd get me drunk on 3 whiffs and then make me take care of your dogs.

Becca - you passed!

H is home already, fairly early for a Monday night.

Survey question -
If you are at home with the tv on and also on the computer, and H comes home and decides it's time to go to sleep, is it okay for him to just walk over and turn the tv off while you are still listening to it, lay down, and go to sleep? gggrrrrr.

no grrrs
He had a rough night skiing. He wasn't even thinking.
remember, it is a physical activity.
next time Smile, walk over and give him a kiss on the forehead.

Hint - the Monday night crew does most of their skiing in the patrol room.

He was thinking, about himself, he's done it before. One of those selfish things.

ackhemmmm - where is your signature line?

Sorry that my sarcasm did not drip out of your screen!
I purely understand the selfishness.
I still say walk over and give him a kiss on the forehead.
Then walk away. Either go back to the computer or go to bed. But acknowledge him in a positive nonverbal way and expect nothing in return.
Do onto others.

BTW re: signature line. I am not only confused with how to do it, I am confused as to the purpose.
It seems that if you post your current thread as your signature line it somehow miraculously updates to you current thread all on its own, just like the number of posts updates.
I just don't see the point. I was looking at Becca's thread, and tried to follow links back and I just kept going in circles, current thead, last thread, link to another thread (and as post mentions a previous thread guess where I think that I am going ) hit the link, I'm in the current thread again. Figure that I clicked something wrong. From current thread click thread link, that takes me back one thread, form that thread click on thread link -- I am going back now! NO! back to the current thread.

Purpose - for me, if someone has a sig link, I can click on it and that thread will open in a new window, and walla! I can read the latest update on them. Some people add it, some people don't, just preference I suppose. I clicked on Beccas 'what's going on' and went to her current thread.

Nothing much to say around here, I'll give a weather report. Cold, grey, windy. Yes, that is the weather, not me.

A friend told me of a dream they had, that by the 28th there would be a decision about my marriage. And someone else in their dream was giving me a lecture on picking partners. Yuck. I wish I didn't know that. What I don't know is which 28th it was in the dream.

My real life lurker friend still lurks. In fact, I think it was quite innocent that we literally bumped into each other in the store. Or I'm more naive than I think. But, we did talk about a few good old days, and some of his current problems. I see him in the mornings and evenings driving on the same roads I travel, numerous times each week. Someone you don't see for over 10 years, and now he pops up all over.

Had a meeting this afternoon, my boss stepped in to cover the office. Ha! he was pretty frazzled after just an hour, and last week we set new production records, maybe this would be a good time to hit him for a raise!