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Hi Beth,

Watch out for those martinis. I hit the wall if I have more than one. Well, you all saw what a little champagne did to me-whew!

You're coming from a lovely, centered place right now Beth. I wish I could get together with you this weekend but it sounds as though you have some fun, relaxing days planned.

The whole older man/younger woman thing I just don't get. It's such a cliche and makes the man look like a shallow moron- at least to women. I don't think these WAS are doing this to impress other men though so there must be something to sex with a youngster (cause they - younger women- sure don't have the life experience to have a whole lot of depth yet). Oh, well, in the long run what does it really matter if we ever figure it out. Life goes on.

He too was stressed at work and OW stroked the ego BIG TIME
Ditto....in my sitch.

The whole older man/younger woman thing I just don't get.
Gulp..not in my case. ow is only a year younger than me. So, think it's the ego stroking bit BIG BIG TIME.

Beth,

Sounds like a nice weekend. You deserve it. Enjoy yourself and spending time with friends.

I agree that you seem so well centered right now.

You've come a long way, baby!

Hi Beth,

Anyone else see a tie - in between their WAS and the WAS's low self esteem?
Oh yeah. HUGE problem on this end, with WAH. He dislikes his job and it makes him feel worthless. o.w. stepped into the picture and inflated his ego until it rivaled a Macy's Parade balloon. I think he looks at me and feels I know him too well, too intimately. I know his flaws, his downfalls. He doesn't have to show them to her.
I would like the recipe to make a chocolate martini. Anyone?

Hey Beth, hope you are blissed out on your child free weekend.

Got to try a chocolate martini. Just be careful! You can get rather intoxicated VERY quickly!!!!!
That's a definite, always been partial to a martini. Not sure about the choc liquer though. I have Baileys, but think that would be too creamy with vodka. There is actually a Baileys martini with scotch in it?

5 cosmos is my limit and then I am not responsible for anything I say or do...wow does that bring back memories from a previous visit to NYC...dancing on the bar with stewardesses from of all places Australia (Kismet, Ruth, was that you?)...

No not I. My own and only foray into table dancing was at a formal uni dinner and involved the chancellor handing me a rose to put between my teeth and telling me he thought I was such a nice girl I am much more restrained these days.

Well the self esteem thing seems to be a common denominator here. Lots of ego stroking going on.

Have a great weekend.

Hi all!

Hope everyone had a good weekend. I went out with two GF's on Friday night. Had alot of fun. Went to a martini bar and had flirtini's. Those are trouble! Anyway, had fun flirting with the late 20/early 30 somethings. They were cute and flirted back! Also chatted with a divorced man my age. Told him I was separated. He said to try your best to work it out if you can. Wish he could talk to my H! Anyways, we laughed alot (one GF happened upon some girl on girl action in the ladies room!)! They have been wonderful friends and a great support. I am so lucky!

Just goofed around on Saturday. Yesterday, went to a Bears party (yep, they lost!) and had alot of fun. No school today but I spent the day cleaning as I had bunco here at my house this evening. So, the kids go back to school tomorrow! And I try to catch up on things before I go back to work next week!

I find now that I miss my H less and less. I do still think about him but he doesn't consume my thoughts all day like he used to. I guess I am detaching. I just know that by this summer I will either be reconciling or divorcing. Kinda crazy. But I'm done being in limbo land. I'm ready to move on with my life. REALLY ready!

I'm up too late again. Sheesh.

WCB

Hey Beth ~ flirtinis and flirting on a Friday Night! Sounds like something that should be in every WW's duty statement. Not to sure on flirtinis plural ~ could be dangerous , but at least you're are getting your Vitamin C.

Told him I was separated. He said to try your best to work it out if you can. Wish he could talk to my H!

Hmmm, yes I have noticed this too. You don't often hear of people saying "It was the best thing I ever did ~ walking away". But not sure if talking to any of the was would do any good, I think they only hear what they want to

But I'm done being in limbo land. I'm ready to move on with my life. REALLY ready!


So what is the next country after limbo land?

You don't often hear of people saying "It was the best thing I ever did ~ walking away".

Yes, very true! It's usually their biggest regret. Ah, hindsight. Too bad some people can't look past the fantasy and see the reality!

So what is the next country after limbo land?


Not sure, but mine will be filled with boofy cabana boys, wonderful sun-drenched beaches, delightful tropical drinks, and whatever else my little heart desires. Can I book my one way ticket now?

Nothing new here. H did want to know the dates for our spring break vacation. Is he going? Is he not? Who knows. The kids and I are going no matter what. So, we'll see. I am doing my best not to read anything into that.

Just another day!

WCB

Hey Beth. Sounding good. Ahhh yes, Spring Break. While back, MIL tried to convince me XW (then still W) was going to take my kids to Disney with OM and that I should pre-empt by booking a trip now. In-laws can be so fun sometimes.

Screw'm. Pass me a martini. I failed the cabanna boy app. and I'm really not sure I'm boofy, but I'm fun to drink with LOL.