Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy Dare I say it...Valentines day...argggggg

I'm glad to hear that your girls are your little rocks - I have a almost 9 and 10 year old daughters, as well as a 4 year old son. My kids keep me sane on the nights my H goes out - when they see me reach for the phone to call him (he never answers by the way since he is probably with her),they tell me to hang up. They tell me anger is my enemy and if Dad cared he would call us. When he does comes home they are cold towards him! My son told him the other day, "Daddy, don't go out no more, tell your friends they can come here" - They are all wise beyond their years. Don't get me wrong, they break down and cry too cause they don't want us to split up and I hate that they even have to go thru this but I don't think I could go on without them

Hey, Mamabear! It's good to have the little guys around, isn't it? It's amazing how strong they can be. My DD's are on opposite ends of the spectrum (I say that one got the hardcore part of me, and the other got the forgiving part). When H and I were "reconciling" last month (before I caught him in bed with OW), my oldest daughter didn't want to have anything to do with him. She said, "He's hurt your feelings before. What makes you think he won't hurt them again?" She wouldn't participate in our weekly family night; she'd just go upstairs. My youngest daughter tells her to chill out.

It was really hard to explain to them what makes people leave, then what makes them come back (once he decided he was coming back). They're so smart because their dad did the same thing to us when they were very small. The oldest one remembers more, so I think that's why she's more callous. When now-H started coming back around last month, I had to teach her about forgiveness.

And now this. The b*stard! I'm at a loss for what to say to them. I just told them H has a GF and that I don't accept unacceptable behavior. Poor babies.

Sorry for the hijack on the community V-Day thread.

Valentine's Day. Hadn't really thought about it, still a way off. But I plan on buying myself something.

For a while now, I have thought about getting a claddagh ~ one of those celtic wedding rings, to wear on my little finger next to my wedding finger. At the moment I wear my mother's rings, but plan to move them to other hand. I don't wear my wedding rings anymore. Noticed today that the identation is nearly gone, after 15 years of never taking them off.

Pretty symbolic to me that right now the love of my life is me. (and S14). So I may do that for V Day. Had planned it for my anniversary which was 2 weeks before the bomb. Or maybe just flowers, but something.

I am sure we will all get through. Hey, we survived Christmas and New Years!

Sassy I think it is a great idea.

I to wanted to make big plans this year! I still am! The hope is that they will include my W which I deeply want! If not it will be another great day for the kids and I!
I would not use this as achance to talk to my W specifically. I personally am going to wait until it gets a little closer and see how things pan out! I just want to get thru today becasue I am so anxious about my W going to her therapy session tonite!

Awwww, Sassy, you hopeless romantic you!!! I think that's a *great* idea. Count me in!

If there is enough interest (at least 10 people), I'll organize it...since most of ya'll already have my email addy...We can set a budget of say 10.00 to 20.00...something like that. You can send the person chocolate, gift certificates, etc...ah...let's see what everyone thinks!!


Not sure how it would work with us Aussie girls, maybe we can have our own as could get expensive with postage etc, but I am willing to put my hand up to do the downunder one. All 4 of us