There is a man that plays darts. He was my partner last weekend. There was a woman there that kept giving me the evil eye all night...and finally she stepped on his foot and made a ruckus. He explained that it was his exW and honestly swear to God if anything I would have pegged her to be his daughter or granddaughter...truly I am being honest here. Anyway, then I realized okay she's being jealous but we're not doing anything, just the conglatutory smack as we were winning...nothing big...certainly nothing that could have been construed as intimate.
Anyway, he came up and talked to me on Tuesday night and we were talking about Rs and such and he said that she had filed for D from him. A couple of days before it was final she said I don't want it...he said no, let's do it...then the night before the D was finalized she said Okay, I decided we will go through with it and then we can start all over again dating. I want a clean fresh start for the both of us...needless to say they got the D and she wants a do-over with him and he is done...he was the LBS in all this...
That IS a good one. Sounds like that woman wanted the option of being with her "H", but no more legal ties. So, if she changed her mind again, she could just easily walk away a second time. That's pretty selfish. Glad the man moved on.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
In my case, although there are a lot of "coincidences" i don't know for sure that my H is having an A. I couldn't even tell you when it started, if he is having one. But, going on the premise that he is having one (although he denies)...11/03 - H started to pull away from me and started having a life separate from our M (going out, staying out late). 9/04 - H of SOW called to tell me of my H's A with his wife, says its been going on since 11/03. 11/04 - H and I separate. 4/05 - attempt reconciliation. 5/05 - H moves out. 7/05 - i move out again. 11/05 - settlement agreement signed. So, if you go by what the xH of SOW says, its been going on for 2 years. I doubt that. Personally, i think the EA started maybe around 4/04 and lasted until around 12/04, at which time it ended. Then, i think it started up again in 5/05, and continues now. I don't know when it became a PA. So, i guess maybe about a total of 16 to 18 months. SOW is now D. So, i am not sure why my H is dragging his feet, if this is what he wants.
Affair lasted from Sept 03 until Dec 04--14 months. I found out about OW May 04. There were many false endings after that. I think OW is definitely out of the picture this time. Slow recovery. I started DBing in Aug 04. I do think it really helped make H unsure about leaving me and the kids.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
Wendylon, Can you tell us, how did it finally end, and why? Do you know the details? Interesting about the many false endings. I've already had 2 in my WAH's situation. Last one really set me back, badly. I was certain he was coming home.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
