I agree with the low self-esteem with our WAH. H admitted that OW did stroke his ego big time. She said all the right things and I did all the wrong things. Every chance H gets he throws it in my face that I did this or I did that wrong in showing my affection towards him. Well boo-hoo...H didn't make feel important but did I run off with another man just make me feel better.
Okay...breathe in, breathe out, KDK..sorry about that. I'm so mad about the thinking the WAS have.
Have a good day!!
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
Me: Sorry....You are a minute late. ALready done. Hee hee hee...
Love it!
Ok, this will brighten your day for sure. These are Yasmin's stars for us for the week, starting from yesterday.
Even if you’re feeling discouraged about life at home, or on the home front, or re your family (or all three), don’t give up. This week, a link between your ruler Venus and the planet of expression Mercury in your home zone gives you the chance to talk things through one last time. Because Venus is still going backwards, you can afford to bring up old subjects and try once more to sort them out. Solutions are possible. If your home life is fine and you’re just wondering when you can expect a bit of romance, this week is looking good, especially around the 24th. For some, delayed payments finally arrive. A good time to get pro-active re cash
Mmmm ~ very interesting. She has been eeringly accurate for me in the past, and I finally got a reimbursement chq yesterday. Solutions are possible. Sounds very promising.
Yes H certainly seems to like having his ego stroked. Keep up the good work
KDU/ Kismet/ KDK - Thank you for dropping by. I am feel rather okay lately. So no tears....so far But am sure one big one will be coming up soon??!??
Journalling... From my last post, Thursday...did send him a short text before I went to bed to wish him a good flight. No reply but he called me about 1.30 am (Friday) in the morning...I was very groggy and already in deep sleep. Think he said something like "You are sleeping? Called you to hear your voice before I go into the plane. I think I am drunk..blah blah blah". I think my reply throughout was like "uh, oh...uh er " as I was not really awake.
Friday... Got a text from H about 2 pm "Everything OK?>? WIll call the boys later. Text you when I'm back in Country Y. Should be home on Sunday...very early" which I replied with a short "Okay. Bye and Enjoy your event". He then replied with a "Bye Hottie. Not an event!!! Entertaining!!".
Saturday... Had two texts from H which I didn't see till later. The first "Everything Ok?? I'll see u n the boys early tmrw morning." Second one "Hey!! ...Is everything okay?? No response from last text". When I saw the second text, I waited for another hour, then I texted "All ok. Sorry..didn't see the text. Am at my college do now". H replied "Just spoke to boys. C u tmrw" I didn't reply.
Sunday... Woke up, feeling rather zombie-fied as I had a late night on Saturday. When I was in the loo, heard that H had called and I picked up. Asked him I want to pick him up or he takes the cab. He decides to take the cab as I just woke up and not ready yet. I went back to the loo and heard another call. Mr. Yoyo has changed his mind and asked me to go and pick him up from the station.
On the way there, told myself that I will not be upset about anything. Arrived at the station. Saw that H did not have any luggage and guessed that he's not staying. So didn't ask nor dwell into it. We went for breakfast together with the boys, and then went home. H was supposed to fix up a TV game (which he gave S8 for Xmas) and he had to read the instructions. SO, thought he'll be awhile. But he was rather anxious to jump into bed cause I was fixing some household items and he was like "HEy, where are you?" ... So, of course we did . S5 did try to open our door a couple of times...
After the session, H went up to play with the boys abit in their room. I went up to join them and got h to fold some origami balls for me (to hang them up as ornaments for the Chinese New Year)... He did and said "So, I've done my job for the CNY...". Anyway, he only stayed for a few hours and I took him back to the station a little after one pm. He did tell the boys that he will be back next Saturday for CNY and will stay a couple of days. I didn't want to really ask him nor remind him that it would be THE weekend that he has to decide. He did mention about his travel plans to Europe after THE day and said some of his friends (I know them) will be going too.
In the car, he did ask me about the Reunion dinner on the 28th (Customary for family to get together to have dinner the day before CNY) and I told him that it would be in MY house and not my parent's house. I did feel a bit funny when I said that, but H didn't really take note... He did talk abit about who he met in Country Y from his old office (ow's coworkers too!!!) blah blah blah..
H called the house about 6.30 pm. Spoke to both boys and me. Not much just trivial stuff like "Are you making dinner? blah blah blah". Before I went to bed, sent him a short text "Are you safely back? Happy Football-ling". No reply but later, he did send me a text "Yep. Met K at the airport. He's on transit to London" which I didnt' read till next morning. I got a call from H "Already sleeping? Did you read my text? I met K at the airport. He's en-route to London".
Monday... This morning...got an email from H informing me that he has sent the monthly $$ to my account. I replied with a short "Thank you very much". That's it.
In summary, pleasant contact but still do not want to think too much.
From my last post..H called at 8.30 pm to talk to boys. Had a brief chit chat with him. He called at 10.00 am again. Brief chit chat again. No R talks. At 10.30 pm, sent him a short text ...nothing much just regular niceties which he replied that he will talk to me tmrw. I went to bed and then heard a phone call...was already fast asleep. Had some brief chit chat and then the R talk began. H asked for a one week extension!! I mean WTF??? He said he needs to talk to ow, and wants me to promise to not talk to the boys. WTF??? I told him that I've given him 10 months to talk to ow. And if he can't get it settled in 10 months, what makes him think that he can sort it out in one week? Told him that I didn't want to live in denial anymore..thinking there is hope but the fact that if he can't sort it out in 10 months, and even with him moving to a different country for 5 months and he still cannot sort it out means he will never sort it out. He said "maybe I am a procrastinator and you are giving me an ultimatum now!" . I said "you hate ultimatums" blah blah blah.
He said he will be back on Saturday and asked what is the course of action blah blah and said that his dad asked him to have reunion dinner on Saturday... Me: Good...then you can bring her to meet him. (His dad is living with his ow...another @sshole!) H: I won't be bringing her okay? Me: Whatever. Means you won't have dinner with us. It's fine. You don't have to. H: I told him that I will be having dinner with you and then going to his place. Me: Whatever. Really can't stand all these nonsense from H.
All sorts of questions from H "Can we still be friends? Can we still occasionally talk on the phone?" Told him that for everybody's sake, we should not have any contact whatsoever...but I will continue to do the right thing which is allow the boys to see him. He was still going on and on about Australia...if he goes and work there, it will definitely be the END between ow and him, and in any case, he doesn't think he will work there and if he does, we will be going with him. At this time with only less than a week, he is still sooooo wishy-washy. I just cannot stand it but remained rather calm and pleasant. Just told him a matter-of-factly that someone is going to get hurt either now or later. This sitch cannot continue to go on and I would prefer it to be now then later. Blah blah blah...did have some tears and he heard it and said "can you stop with the cry-y business??" Talked about engaging a Lawyer blah blah balh.Anyway, said our goodnights....
Basically, really don't see him doing anything...to solve this sitch. Ultimately will be me to call it quits. And I think I've had enough...although the last few contacts were pleasant enough.
This morning...sent him a text "Sorry but I have been thinking... It's either u want to commit to the marriage or not...Giving you one more week to see what she thinkis is a no-no. Don't want to draganymore. SUnday will be a new chapter in my life either with a committed hubby or without one. WHole world thinks I have given you ample time. But as promised, will talk to boys after the new year. Will do it together. I will send you the draft agreemetn by this week. Ta and have a good day."
No reply from. No...I am not going to harrass him. I just feel that I need to be the one to take action now....
Just want to say I'm praying for you and thinking of you right now. You've been through so much. Don't doubt yourself. You've been so patient and the change in your strength over the last two months is very noticeable! Whatever happens, you'll be OK cause you've gone the extra mile for your M and no one can doubt you've given your H plenty of time and space.
Hi Yoyo ~ Mr Yoyo continues to astound me Good on you for sticking to your guns.
Do you think you are prepared mentally and emotionally for Sunday? It will be a tough time either way. Sorry honey I don't have any advice for you (my m is cr@p anyway so probably shouldn't listen to me at all ). But take care of yourself, you have well and truly ridden this rollercoaster and maybe it is time to get off. There must be easier rides ~ maybe those pretty ponies on the carousel
So sorry Yoyo. I think it was right of you to not give H an extension. I'm with you. WTF! It is a really difficult decision and a very hard time. I'll hold good thoughts for you.
(((((yoyo)))))
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
I've called it quits. I am tired and tired and tired. First, it was one week extension then he says two weeks. He says he is still trying to make it work. After ten months, and it is not sorted out. What is the one week or two weeks. It really saddens me that he is still monkeying around. It is really really a sad day for me indeed. I can't post anymore..
I've called it quits. I am tired and tired and tired. First, it was one week extension then he says two weeks. He says he is still trying to make it work. After ten months, and it is not sorted out. What is the one week or two weeks. It really saddens me that he is still monkeying around. It is really really a sad day for me indeed. I can't post anymore..
But am sure one big one will be coming up soon??!??
cause I was fixing some household items and he was like "HEy, where are you?" ... 
Good on you for sticking to your guns.