W called me this morning and told me that her boss was coming in town yada, yada, yada and she wanted to go with me to KC for the funeral but didn't think she could...I told her that I understood, no problem and I appreciate her looking in to it...got off the phone and was very hurt, but after talking it through with some people they kinda explained that her going was a super long shot and that we have too many issues that have not even been touched upon and for her to travel 700 miles in that atmosphere with needing to be supporting and loving in front of family and friends is asking too much...and I guess that when I step outside of my selfishness I can see that...i wouldn't want her to be fake and I think she really lamented over her decision (she said that she didn't sleeep at all last night)...she has already text me saying that "I'm truly sorry I can't be there but call me if you need me"... (nice thought of kindness)...so I just responded with like kindess..."thank you for ur thoughts and prayers"
VINCES, I am very sorry for the loss of your grandfather. I can empathize. WAW moved out 2 weeks after my father (92) passed away. I didn't/haven't even had a chance to mourn his death when I was hit with another loss. I'm hangin on by a thread but know it will get better someday. In the meantime, focus on what you have not on what you don't have.
Know you're cared about and supported here. We feel your pain and will help you get through it. So just hang in there man, and pray.
Thank you all for your kind words...I'm thinking I might need a little help getting through all this...has anyone tried any of the antidepressants out there like zoloft or wellbrutin? would love to know if anyone had any success with meds?
Tough to admitt but I recently went on Paxil. Took the edge of, but was not the solution. I have noticed that in the evening before bed the wheels in my head have not been spinning as much, and I feel a little less anxiety. So I think it is helping me personally.
Tim
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Antidepressants take about a month to kick in, but they're not "happy pills". Eat chocolates in the meantime. I'm serious.
Anyway, insofar as experiences with ADs, there was a time when the wife used to get real crotchety with PMS. Sleepless nights, every little thing was a problem, severe mood changes, you name it, man, it was driving me nuts. So the doctor prescribed Wellbutrin, and after a few weeks of my taking it, her antics didn't bother me anymore.
When all of this started for me in July, I had been on Prozac for 11 years. I have a friend who is a Dr. of Pharmacology and he suggested Cymbalta . . . which is like Prozac but also deals with secondary anxiety. Best to talk with your doc about it and tell him all of your symptoms. He's only as good as the information you will provide to him. "Take the edge off" is the best way to describe how you will probably feel on any of these Rxs.
