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Slowly,

Thank you thank you thank you for this post! I can't tell you how much I needed to see this last night.

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He's a guest in my reality - I control myself.

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This quote is what greeted me when I read your post. My thread has gotten locked up and I don't have time to start a new one yet, but I just confirmed yesterday that SO did indeed have an affair during our first R.

My apologies for the hijack, but I just wanted to thank you for helping me keep my wits about me last night. I don't think we always realize how we touch people on this bb, and I wanted to be sure you knew.

M

5 days into the new year and I feel like I've lost control already Note to self: take a deep breath, pick myself up and move forward.

Journal

I resigned this week! My boss took it as well as could be expected, though she is holding me to my contracted notice period, so I have to stay till the end of Feb. However, I can reduce my hours in Feb, which will be much needed as I'm sure my coursework would have piled up.

NG took me to his team dinner last night, I was only one of two spouses there, among a team of 10. That felt good, as did the opportunity to meet and get to know the people he will be working with in his new role. It was a wonderful evening.

Here is an article that might be of interest to some of you

Psychoneuroendocrinology: Romantic love 'lasts just a year'

Should I show this to NG



Wishing you all a peaceful Thursday. Slowly

I found a couple interesting things there Slowly..thanks for the link.

Hi Slowly!

Just want to stop by, check up on you and wish you a really happy new year!

Betsey

Slowly,

Congrats on the resignation!!!

SO MANY changes for you

Sage

Happy Tuesday everyone

I'm actually in a funk right now, and it has nothing to do with NG. I am chasing so many deadlines at work, nothing seems to be going right, and I know I'm not in a good place, so I'm working hard to zero down my expectations, of myself and of everyone around me I'll be so glad when this week is over and I have just 7 weeks before I can sit at home and chill with my coursework.

Hope everyone remembers to be kind to yourselves. Slowly

Hey Slowly,

Hope you're feeling better quickly.

(((((Slowly)))))

Betsey

Hi Betsey and Matilda - Thanks for stopping by. I managed to finish 3 out of 5 deadlined deliverables so far, and am feeling much, much better. It took me a while into dbing to realise that when I'm stressed at work, my personal situation looks bleak. Duh. These days I just recognise what's going on, and lower my expectations of myself. Preserves everyone's sanity

Last night NG and I were watching a pre-recorded program from a friend, and as it ended, the second half of Oprah's interview with Bill Clinton came on (must have been a previous recording that got taped over). It was when he was talking about telling his wife and daughter about his 'mistake' with Monica Lewinsky, and their journey to recovery as a family. NG was mesmerized. It was an uncomfortable 20 minutes, and we did not discuss the program afterwards, but I could see he was processing.

Slowly

There are no accidents--everything happens for a reason. NG was meant to see that. Cool!