I can understand why you're angry. Nobody can push our buttons and upset us like our spouses. And you are right in that he is only thinking of himself completely. I went through years of dealing with a self centered person and it was only when I truly let go that everything changed. And I mean truly let go - when I didn't love her anymore, didn't get into discussions/arguments as to what went wrong or what was wrong with either of us. When I completely let go is when she wanted me. And guess what, I had grown to the point where I didn't want her back. And that's what happened, I finalized the divorce, got my sanity and self respect back, and moved on. I am a true believer that to save your marriage you have to let go. I read it in DB but was never able to apply it properly.
Well, H did it. He introduced my S to the OW at a family party in a restaurant. My S told me about it and has said that the rest of H's family pretty much ignored OW. She tried to include my S in conversation but he ignored her. Then she stopped in unexpectedly the next day at H's house, to use bathroom because she and her two children were out looking for a new puppy. They live about 20 miles away in a much larger city. Where would you look for a new puppy? My S said that her kids totally ignored my H and vice versa. When H asked my S if he had told me about meeting the OW, my S told the truth. H said to my son " Well, I don't care what your mother thinks". Oh, really. I think it was all a set up to yank my chain. I have decided not to react to this at all. I will not give them the satisfaction. My son doesn't like her and has told his father so now it is all up to my son. I can now sit back and see what else they will do. For now, they will panick, because they will think I will retaliate and I am not going to do anything. Nada!!!! It should be interesting to see what lengths they go to to get my attention.
