Quote: I really don't miss my XH one iota and it only takes a couple of minutes talking to him to make me realize that I'm better off with the peace of mind I have now
I got that and agree by what you say in your posts.
Quote: re: dream house is that I could've afforded to stay in it, I think.
You mean you could have but it would have been a strain is what I think you are implying.
Quote: it was a very long time ago but occasionally it still knocks me down emotionally
I don't think thoughts about what could have been ever go away. Maybe they hurt a little less as the years go by.
Quote: My kids would be 16 years apart!!!!
My oldest sister is 18 years older than me.
Quote: She was a mistake, but definitely the best one I ever made!!!
Never a mistake from what I read . If it was, it certanially was a one.
Quote: he and I worked out a deal where I don't have to give him half of it.
Do I detect a better shoping day in the making? JK.
Quote: He has no retirement so in the long run,
Can he sleep in the dog house out back JK again.
Quote: Women want "strong" men (most of the time).
I have been called controlling more than once. So all of thei co-dependency stuff is hog wash?
Quote: If you let "us" boss you around, it causes us to wonder if you are strong enough to count on when there is a crisis
This is the first board that I have read that states this. I hear what some women say IRL and here it is the opposite. And to think, I have been lied to all this time!
serious I did not want to be domineering and say "my way or the highway"
Quote: I probably didn't explain that very well.
You did/are doing it as we post here. Everyone comes from a little different place so what you write may not be what I read and visa versa. People here do take the time to explain things very well if you read long enough.
Quote: Women want "strong" men (most of the time). We want to know you guys can take care of us. If you let "us" boss you around, it causes us to wonder if you are strong enough to count on when there is a crisis or will we have to get you through that too.
Q,you explained that quite well.
Lou, I'm glad you're not doting on BB. H follows me around and offers to pick up after me. Trouble is I don't want him to. (likely I'm not done with it or I don't want to be "dogged" like that).
What's wrong with you? You sound fairly perfect!
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
Quote: What's wrong with you? You sound fairly perfect!
I have a dark spot on one tooth, one tooth is fake (implant) 265# but 6'4", not a millionair, I don't spent a lot of money , I like sex a couple times a week , I only give half hour back rubs w/o sex, one hour with, , I cook some fair to good meals-not much fancy , I work on things around the house but a little slow at it, Not a party animal-I am home every night, I watch comedy/drama/news/science/love stories on TV, I don't say "Your worshepness" , some times I snore if I don't use my CPAP blower , I only read non-fiction books, I only walk 1K-4 times a week on the treadmill, I only do sit=ups and stretches every other day, I only have 4 pair of shoes , I can fix my computer but it takes a while sometimes , I can overhaul almost anything on a car but I can't repair the printed-circuit-boards , The last car I painted had a little run in the paint that I had to buff out , and my number is still BeachWood 4-5789, you can call me up and have a coffee date any old time! BeechWood 4-5789
Maybe I should go to psychoanalysis to see what "IS" wrong with me, LostGal!
Quote: H follows me around and offers to pick up after me. Trouble is I don't want him to.
Time to back into him and step on his toes or back into him really hard and let him catch you. One way to get him to put his arms around you.
Quote: You forgot to address callouses,warts and abdominal gas and hair loss on that list!
A guy has to have some family secrets, but here goes.
1. callouses, Cut those off with a razor or my thumb nail
2. abdominal gas, Only eat chilli 2X a week on non-nookie nights.
3. hair loss, BB said i have too much Now it is starting to grow out my ears.
I asked my stylist what i chould do about the gray. She said men look dignified with gray hair, women need to look younger so they color their hair.
And I want to modify (I like sex a couple times a week ) to include up to 4 times if she is HD and quickies are included. Is that TMI?
OH Yea, I sit to pee and leave the top cover open. Now if I can only remember to tuck in my shirt tail in my pants and not my underpants, maybe I won't look like such a dork when my underware rides up above my belt line
Any more questions Chrissy? LostGal? Qoe100/Snow White/Jill Anyone
A guy has to have some family secrets, but here goes.
Thats why I did not ask about the family jewels!
Now if I can only remember to tuck in my shirt tail in my pants and not my underpants, maybe I won't look like such a dork when my underware rides up above my belt line
Just switch to boxers and you will be considered in style!
Other question which you "still" haven't answered......have you told BB yet that future home improvements will be done by whoever she chooses and she's paying for them????
I worked in gas stations and had to clean the restrooms. I know "most" guys aim to hit the target but don't always do it. I got my mental gears going after looking at some of the messes on the floor of the gas station, and determined the same thing to a lesser degree was happening at home. I did not want pee on my bathroom floor so decided to sit from then on. Yes guys can plan ahead even if they don't clean the bathroom very often.
One day I took a wiz at K Mart. The metal divider by the urinal was rusty. It was at least a foot away from the one side of the urinal. I thought "how did the divider get rusty" > splash back! Another reason for sitting.
Sitting also lets em cool off better A guy alwys needs to keep his equipment cool.
Quote: Do many men do that?
Guys that clean bathrooms, mostly.
Quote: have you told BB yet that future home improvements will be done by whoever she chooses and she's paying for them????
Not yet. Before I do, I have to do things on my list. Once those things are completed I am going into another mode and say " who's doing the work" like I don't know how to do much of anything / playing dumb.
All of the things I have done so far, I have paid for but I will take the money out of the joint retirement account ( a couple of CD's matured so there is cash there) and put it in my account.
Jill, I let some things go too long, other things the pets damaged, and some things I opened my big mouth too many times and said "Oh, I can do that," hoping to make points. I think I learned my lessons, don't let things go for so long, insist any damage done by pets is BB's problem mostly, and zipp it/use duck tape on my mouth more.
So, I have a little calk job around the sink in the bathroom. Know anyone that will come over in their, oops, better not ask that one here.
Quote: Just switch to boxers and you will be considered in style!
Red or black silk boxers Chrissy?
I worked in the grouphome, saw it every day. It looks dumb for a 61 yr old guy in tighty wities. Oh, do I have to wear the levi short pants that are 5 sizes too big, with the leg bottoms about mid calf and one of those black leather wallets on a dog chain too? Almost for got the AC/DC T shirt.
Naw, I think the Harley look goes better for us older guys.
. If it was, it certanially was a 
one. 
JK.
, I like sex a couple times a week 
, I only give half hour back rubs w/o sex, one hour with, 
, I work on things around the house but a little slow at it, Not a party animal-I am home every night, I watch comedy/drama/news/science/love stories on TV, I don't say "Your worshepness" 
, I only read non-fiction books, I only walk 1K-4 times a week on the treadmill, I only do sit=ups and stretches every other day, I only have 4 pair of shoes 
, I can overhaul almost anything on a car but I can't repair the printed-circuit-boards 
, The last car I painted had a little run in the paint that I had to buff out