Ask him if there is another fantasy he would be willing to try. I just don't see sex with another man as something good for your relationship.
Just a thought. This could also cause something in the future to go bad. I am not sure how to word this so I will try to just lay it out there. I would be afraid that in the future, he could always say- you liked having sex with someone else other than me- or more than me-or anything that pops in his head.
tell him whip cream and chocolate syrup is a go but I would avoid this unless it is something you are willing to pay the consiquences on.
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
I know that is more than this.. jak you are right that we and he would have regrets. I would have more than anyone. This problem we are having is much deeper than sex. Like I said, when we do, no problem. I am even more confused after tonights communication exercise. I am writing this now afterwords and can tell tou I wish there was a cliff to jump off nearby because I would probably be there. My own rollercoaster. I don't want to ride but I was not given a choice. I am so over this... I say that and I am crying at the same time. I wish I was so over this. Like I said before, This is about alot of different things. Not just the sex thing. Part of me just wants to say what the f. Just get over it. I am hating my life pretty bad right now. All I ever did was love him. I hate him for putting me through this. Not anything to do with the sex thing, just the other crap. I so do not understand any of this. God help me right now, because I can obviously not help myself. Why does it have to be this way?
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Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
Voice your other concerns. Maybe we should address those first. I do know the pain you are feeling. I have been divorced now for 5 months and I struggle every day. All here seem to struggle. We are here for you to vent as much as you want. Nobody grades anybody else here on there feelings. At least not much.
Make a list of your problems you are facing and post them. There will be plenty of people here with advice and stories to help you.
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
Right now Jak, I just feel lost. I do not have any other words for it. I have been on this rollercoaster for alot longer than I wanted to be just because I do love this man. I am so trying to be patient and do what ever I can. Including considering this fantasy if that will truly make him happy. This just sucks... my life sucks pretty much right now and I do not know how to deal with any of it.
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
I have... thats why I appreciate what you say. At least you do have emotions. If you need a good laugh I know a few good ones. I guess I am just going through the motions..so not like me. I just want my life back... the person I used to be before this *&%#...
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
Oh, I've got emotions! I am there with you on that. I am a firefighter and have to have my ssssssssss#!t together. Not only that, I have also been a Capt. at my previous department. Now, except for some friends that give me strength I have met here, I really am just making it day by day.
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
Well I do not really have alot of friends I can confide in. Just "our" friends and sometimes I just really want someone who understands what I am saying. I can not really get that from friends or family right now. I know they mean well, but they do not understand. I do the same as far as day by day....sometimes I feel like I am just going thruogh the motions. Not really living. You know what I mean?
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
Yes I work...probably too much. About 55 hours at work and then some. I enjoy my job and am a workaholic sometimes. Hobbies? well I have my dogs. love to walk in the park with them. as far as myself is concerned I like to go to 24 hour fitness and release my stress. Dreams? well I have alot of those. And you?
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
