Really nothing, that’s why I haven’t been posting. She did back out of the concert. Said, “I really only like two of their songs so I can’t justify the expense. If you go, tell me all about it.”
She had the kids this weekend but she dropped them off at a mutual friend’s house to stay both nights. She called today totally stressed out at all the things she has to do and how all of her nights are taken. I have no doubt she spent the majority of this weekend with Om (two hour drive away). Gee, maybe if you prioritized a little better you wouldn’t be so stressed.
An attorney in my office (family law) noticed Friday that I wasn’t wearing my wedding ring (haven’t in about a week.) She reminded me that I was still married despite what W was doing, (and a Catholic to boot!) I put it back on and it’s been on all weekend. This goes to Tambo and Still_Hopeful's current Sitches and dating. I am getting to the point where I might just start. I’m getting a little lonely and the side effect of causing some jealousy might not be so bad. That is such a tough one though as I would never want to hurt anyone else. I think I said it before that as long as you are open and honest about what is going on, it should be o.k.
The thoughts of W with Om are just overtaking my mind this weekend. I am really trying to GAL and PMA-just having a rough time. I did order an electric guitar from Costco tonight. Never played before in my life, but always wanted to learn. Is 44 too old to become a rock star? I could sure use the groupies!
Quote: I did order an electric guitar from Costco tonight. Never played before in my life, but always wanted to learn. Is 44 too old to become a rock star?
Hey I'm still learning at 48. I just joined a band for the first time in my life too (playing keyboards now - not my main instrument).
Guitar is a little hard in the beginning, but, like anything, once you get the hang of it, it gets easier. Learn some chords, take some lessons - tell the instructor you just want to learn to play some chords at first - don't let them try to teach you scales and stuff. You want to have fun and impress the chicks, not be a virtuoso.
Great GAL idea. If I didn't play, I'd be learning too...
Hey, check out my thread and I'll post a link to a song WAW and I wrote and recorded together....
Quote: This goes to Tambo and Still_Hopeful's current Sitches and dating. I am getting to the point where I might just start. I’m getting a little lonely and the side effect of causing some jealousy might not be so bad.
I think it would be a fantastic idea for your to start dating casually. I know you don't want to hurt someone else - but if you are clear about what's going on in your life and reasonably open about your baggage, there is no need for anyone to be hurt.
There is no harm in making new friends. It's fun to go to a movie or just out for coffee with someone different - someone who isn't invested in the ins and outs of your personal drama.
What about starting an evening class (then you can invite your dates up to 'look at your etchings' ), I've enrolled in 2 this semester.
You are definately not too old to be a rock star - and I will be your number 1 groupie!!! Virginia
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
Well, the rock star career my have to wait, things have gotten pretty heavy the last day or so.
W called yesterday afternoon and talked about kids’ school stuff for a while and then, out of the blue said, “We need to talk about a settlement.” I responded that I thought I would be hearing from her attorney but she said she would rather do most of it herself to save money. Well to cut to the chase her proposal was absurd, and my non-DB reaction was, “that ain't gonna happen.”
She was quite upset as her apartment lease expires in November and she cannot renew. Therefore she must find a new place and she thinks that we can have this settled and her in a new place within two months?
Some words were exchanged but I really maintained my composure. I did ask, “Are you 100% sure you want to divorce me?” She responded, “No, but I need to find a new place to live.”
We spoke a couple other times during the evening and at one point I said that I believed our marriage was still savable. I made a couple good points at which she was completely silent for a good amount of time. Thinking, right?
I mentioned the Om to which she said, “You’re putting too much into him. He doesn’t mean that much. Why would I invest in someone that lives 100 miles away and I can only see once a month.” I also mentioned her drinking to which she denied wholeheartedly. (It ain’t just a river in Egypt.)
Today she emailed me that she guesses we cannot even talk anymore. I responded by saying that I actually thought we did o.k. last night considering the emotional intensity of the issues. I have to keep reminding myself that this is just a phase and/or a mood swing. After all, it was just two weeks ago that we had that great date.
Now, as for my letter. I have prepared a counter offer for when I get hers in writing. My offer though is asking her to work on our marriage. I was planning on doing something in December but my hand is being force earlier. I had my C read it and she made some suggestions on wording and such.
(Had to take a little break. D6 just came in crying. Does a lot of that lately, Hmm, wonder why?)
Anyway, the letter will go out if she sends me her offer. If she refuses my counter-offer, then I am done. (As an aside, if we are done, my first call is to the Om whom I have never met or spoken with and will tell him what a SOB I think he is! Will it do my sitch any good? No, but will allow me to verbalize what I have held inside for months.)
Quote: I did order an electric guitar from Costco tonight. Never played before in my life, but always wanted to learn. Is 44 too old to become a rock star? . . . Hey I'm still learning at 48. I just joined a band for the first time in my life too (playing keyboards now - not my main instrument).
I just recently setup my drums again! A virtual band maybe?
I am not going to post too much right now except to say that the last few days have been amazing and I think W and I are on the road to recovery. Last week she was talking settlement and this week she is wearing her ring again, telling me she loves me, and is asking what we will do with the stuff she bought for her apartment when she moves back home.
I am taking it all very slowly, and I am sure you all want to know details that I will in fact provide once my head comes down from the clouds.
Oh WAWF I've been thinking about you and hoping that no news was good news .,.. and it is.
I'm so happy for you. I'm not going to drink champagne at half time though (a serious personality fault of mine), but please let us know what's going on. We want you to be a success story.
Take care
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
WAWF, hope it works out well for you. I do have a reservation, and I may be way off, but it's that your WAW did need a place to live come November... so please keep an eye open that this turnaround isn't prompted by that.
), I've enrolled in 2 this semester.