Somewhere on one of the old-timer's threads they talked about using "Om" and "Ow" because they didn't deserve the full capital. I've been going with that one.
Problem is it looks a little like a word instead of an acronym. Can't win 'em all.
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Aha....I have been using OM but it means Other Maggot...and just so you know...that is what I refer to him when I discuss him with family and in-the-know friends....maggot....crawling under some fridge....waiting for human's scapes.....slithering across a floorr...being a maggot...a slimey, ugly, worthless, maggot
OOPS...got a little carried away there....sorry. Happy Day
Hey WAWfighter....you must be going through some confusing stuff here. I am probably a little older than you but Bill Cosby had a comedy album out when I was but a youngster. He had this routine where he liked a girl and as he would approach her...she would say, "come here, come here, come here, come here" then as cosby would say in his routine...I would come and get closer to her, she would say, "go away, go away, go away, go away". Now if you put that in Cosby's tone and listen to his style...it was pretty funny. Anyway, it seems like your W is in that kind of deal. But....it's better than, "go away, go away, go away"
You have such the perfect oppurtunity to DB the hell out of her. I would love to be in your sitch and sit back and watch her head spin with confusion. I used to be there but I back slide too many times. It isn't too late for you. Also....you have got to figure out a way to spill out the information that you went to the concert with a girl. When I got that out discreetly....I saw some major head spinning
Good luck....your ahead of the pack right now my friend
Well, I was calling him A**H*** with My C, but she suggested Twerp instead. Gives him a little less power.
Tambo, thanks. Today she called and asked for her W2 from last year. Here I was just thinking that this divorce stuff is moving pretty slow but that request obviously came from her atty.
I appreciate your thought and that is one of the reasons I love this board for the confidence it brings. Unfortunately, I still get a little pessimistic.
You and I believe Walkingback suggested that I let her know I went with a G to the concert. Maybe, if we ever do see the movie, I find a way to let it slip. (PS, My wedding ring as of late is on sometimes, off sometimes. I have no doubt W has noticed.)
What other DBing do you suggest? Keep the advice coming. Thanks.
have been using OM but it means Other Maggot...and just so you know...that is what I refer to him when I discuss him with family and in-the-know friends....maggot....crawling under some fridge....waiting for human's scapes.....slithering across a floorr...being a maggot...a slimey, ugly, worthless, maggot
The problem is...Other may mean that we are a part of it too. Therefore, I am avoiding other maggot, other whore, etc. Know what I mean? How bout, "TM" (the maggot) ot "TW" (The whore).
Ok...I have to chime in on the other person references here, and I have several things to say: 1) first & foremost, I agree with those that say that anyone who would fool around with a married person is not a real man or real woman 2) remember, please, that our spouses were the ones that strayed. They made the choice to fool around. The bottom line is that our spouses made the choice, not the other person. 3) you are focusing too much on the other person, which in turn gives them more power than they deserve 4) the other person is a symptom of the problem....NOT the problem 5) this last post is from a spiritual angle - if you are a Christian, try praying for the other person. They need it, just like your spouse. They are messed up, too. Remember, they made a choice to mess around with someone who was supposed to be off limits.
Kind of a side note on the other person...you won't completely stop thinking about them - thoughts will always pop up. In my sitch, his name is Matt. He has dirty blonde hair (light brown), and a big, toothy smile...I never put 2+2 together before this morning...but he bears a slight resemblance to Matt Damon (the actor), who she loves. While this hurts a little - I had to laugh when I made the connection. Try to make everything as little a problem as possible. The more angry and/or focused you are on the other person - the more bitterness you will harbor and the less you can improve you. Anyway, I'll get off of my soapbox now...
Bryan
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
1) first & foremost, I agree with those that say that anyone who would fool around with a married person is not a real man or real woman
5) [the other person is] messed up, too. Remember, they made a choice to mess around with someone who was supposed to be off limits.
I think that because the OP chooses to get involved with a married person, that the OP is, by definition, a psychopath. I say that because what they're doing is this: they're thumbing their nose at society's view of marriage and saying instead that adultery is preferable over marriage. I was told, for example, that back when my WAW, before she became a WAW, back after her EA was exposed and she decided that she'd work on our relationship and earnestly did cut off the OM, that the OM went "berserk" and tried to contact her. Now, what does that show? A disrespect for her honorable and ethical intentions? A lack of regard for someone else's marriage? I think so.
