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#533610 09/30/05 11:12 AM
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Very nice dream last night.

and an interesting reply.......


Have to get k's off to school, will post more shortly!

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Oh you are cruel! What did he say????

Are you feeling better today?


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#533612 09/30/05 03:12 PM
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Sorry to keep this waiting, had a phone call this morning. (that took an eternity!)

Feeling a little better healthwise, but PMA was low last nite.

But it got a boost.

First I needed to find my little miracle last nite and got it! ty, hp!

That dream I was talking about, so cool. This may seem really strange but I had a 'relationship gauntlet' thrown at me in my sleep. (that's what came to mind!) I keep having dreams that I feel like I am being tested, this time I had to maintain my morals while dating all these guys. Lots of cute guys, some from my past and some I fantasize about all wanting to take me out, hold hands, cuddle and .... ... it was nice! But even in the dream I knew that if I stuck to my goals, that exH would be at the end of this gauntlet. I know, I'm a bit strange even in dreams. (I'm not going to let on who I picked tho!)

On to the reply, I've read it over and over to make sure that I'm understanding it. (I don't think I'll paste it word for word, he used about 50+ words in one run on sentence) Now sometimes the emotions that I currently have can affect how I interpret an email. So, even trying to read this as if he is furious, I still get a good feeling out of this. Basically he states:

how have you been?
hoping all is ok
have a new ins card for you
hope boys are doing well in school
just got in from work
hope to talk soon
'ex'
hug boys for me


Now, who's hooked on me? I'm wondering how long b4 I should start reeling him in, (bait him into another visit?)

#533613 09/30/05 03:18 PM
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You're such a goofball!


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#533614 09/30/05 03:22 PM
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Ok,

Time for the outsiders perspective.

HUH?

I see nothing in there but generic, "Hi, How are you?"

I realize I know little about previous interactions, but I see you putting WAY TOO much value, hope, belief into a benign email.

Is this the same person who does not answer his phone, does call you or S, does not come visit and set his "rules?"

We say it to everyone, take the FOCUS off of him and turn it to you.

I definitely need to do this; having a crappy day thinking about past and divorce and stuff, but only I can turn it around and work on me.

We cannot and should not have to deal with, figure out, worry over, give value or credence to the walk away's crap.

And setting up false hopes and expectations is a sure way to get run over.

My view.

write

Bruce

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Quote:

Now, who's hooked on me? I'm wondering how long b4 I should start reeling him in, (bait him into another visit?)





It's a start. Now who is reading a ton into a very small number of words? And who has their expectations going through the roof? I might be jaded, but this isn't enough for me to say much about except it's a start. It could be that he's just trying to get back on your good side. Doesn't mean you can't be positive, just don't get your expectations too high. I would say almost that much to my first X and I have absolutely no intention of chasing her.

Me


In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt

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By the way....on behalf of both Bruce and I...sorry to piss in your wheaties.


In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt

#533617 09/30/05 03:48 PM
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Actually, my expectations are set on the guy in my dream. Unfortunately, I haven't met him yet, but I'm looking. Here's the description: around 6 ft, dark hair (full hair not bald like my ex) blue eyes, clean shaven, dresses sharp and is very articulate. oh, and a good dancer!

anyone seen him around?


ps. my focus is on me! Gal activities for the w/e include football, housecleaning, (yuk!) budgeting, (more yuk!) working on some projects and having fun w/kids.
I am not waiting around or answering his calls or emails, he is on the back burner!

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T - If I find him first, I don't know that I'm going to let you have him! He sounds yummy!


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#533619 09/30/05 03:52 PM
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Quote:

By the way....on behalf of both Bruce and I...sorry to piss in your wheaties.




You missed anyways, it's Cheerios!

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