Karen,
MrsGGB and I ML 3 times this weekend as well, and we seem to have re-established the EC. I'm still not feeling overwhelmingly horny (which I think might be a good thing), but then she mentioned that my not focusing on sex might have been what tripped her trigger. I too am hoping the connection lasts. Maybe HP will chime in and tell us that she too had a fulfilling weekend!
Oh yeah, and she didn't feel like scrambling out of bed when we finished for a change either. Now that is certainly worth a "WOO HOO!"
That's great! I'm not overwhelmingly horny either but I bet about one or two days from now I will be. It is very predictable. Let's hope H is interested then.
Karen and GGB - I also got some action 3 times this weekend. Hurray. Karen, thanks for your words. I have decided that I am committed to my M and am going full steam ahead with working on our SL and other R issues. If I feel like I am "slipping", I will be seeking out IC for my own sanity. But, I am feeling very hopeful. I am getting away from looking at the M as "for the kids". I know that would never be enough for me so I am really focusing on bettering our entire dynamic. He is fully on board as well which obviously helps. Good point about "sustaining the momentum". I fear we will slip back into old patterns. As for receiving feedback from my own H that I am pretty, sexy, whatever, he has been good about making comments everyday that make me feel desired. When he does this, I often make a point to tell him how much that means to me and makes me want him more in return. Everyone needs some positive reinforcement now and then.
Well, someone had to crash this three-fer party, so I guess it will be me!
Firstly, woo hoo's for all you lucky dogs.
Karen, I know exactly what you are talking about with the on-again, off-again EC. I'm not sure what to tell you, but have you ever told H that you need the sexy vibe to continue throughout the week, even though he may be too tired to ML? I'm sure you have, but I was curious about his response.
GGB, way to go, bruthaman. I knew things would eventually get back to normal for you guys. LFL, I'm happy that your EC is coming back with your H, too.
As for me, nothing. This was how I wanted it. I woke up Friday night to H groping me pretty heavily. I was in a deep sleep and couldn't wake up and as he got more and more physically aggressive, I was pondering how to reject someone who never asked in the first place, lol. Seriously he was so aggressive that I had the thought, in the morning, that MrsHD would have been on the phone with the authorities, no joke. It was nearly a violation, except that I am HD and don't think that way.
It was just his hand, HD. If he had progressed to the next level, I would have had to say something. As it was, I was just hoping he'd fall back asleep. (Is this Ultra HD honeypot speaking??) He was just doing it so hard, inside me, and I was so sound asleep that I was half laying thinking, Is this my mild mannered H doing this, and the other half thinking Get the hell off me and let me sleep sucka!
I still have a helluva sex drive but just haven't been able to access it in regards to H. I feel badly for him. I'm sure I'll give in sometime soon. <cringe>
Last night I dreamt I was divorced and shopping for men at a wedding with my 3 kids in tow. It wasn't fun so I've no plans to go anywhere anytime soon. Just hoping that things resolve themselves soon.
That is soooo sad. Mr. HP must be very confused. He keeps thinking that if he "tries hard enough to do what you've been asking for" that your desire will just come back. He is missing the HP he knows and can predict. I bet you are missing her too. So - what was the HP household like after you gave Mr. HP the cold shoulder?
I honestly hope that bigger and better things will be happening in my HH. I am still looking forward to ME weekend. H is too, I think. He brought it up recently and I hadn't even realized how close it was getting.
Hi Honeypot My mild-mannered H also does not usually act aggressive in bed and I think if you were in the right frame of mind so to speak you would have been very turned-on. I would love my H to just "have his way with me." That's hot. But I am also very HD right now so... Interesting dream about shopping for men, lol, I'm sure we could interpret that fairly clearly. When I was with H pre-separation I was not HD towards him but still craved being HD with others. Do you feel like you still have your drive but not for H right now?
On the two occasions when I have woken Ms. HDog by touching her in forbidden places, once, it was her breasts, once her "squeezy bits." Both times, I began with the hopes of arousing her both from sleep and from non-horniness. Both times, she made sounds/movements that seemed to encourage me to go on. Both times, she awoke fully and was totally outraged.
I haven't touched her "forbidden places" without her being fully awake, and without plenty of confidence that things were moving apace towards ML, since. Usually, a touch on her thigh or her shoulder is just brushed off well before that time.
My libido is VERY low. I hope it's just in semi-hibernation.
