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Arwen - hullo! You found my thread. Thanks so much for the visit.

Phoenix - will check the email, and the group thing sounds good, if we can organize it.

Some days I wish I had a panel or committee of DB friends watching me each day, kind of like Monday night football commentators. It would sure be nice to be able to call up to the booth and get an overhead opinion of what to do, especially of the female persuasion. If they do it on Letterman why can't we do it here?

Just a mix of venting and imagination. Hope all had a good weekend. Thought I would at least try to put a smile on a few faces.

We are really worried about our D19, who seems to have made a really bad choice of boyfriend these last 3 months, and my H has gone to the old city to try and sort things out. I tried talking to her, but it seems she is unwilling to give him up, and get back on track with college, etc. I think we're going to have to DB her. AAAGGGHHH! Kids seem to be more emotionally draining when they are adults than when they were little, I am discovering as each of ours reaches adulthood. We always thought we were doing the best we could for them, but somehow they find something to complain about, and blame us for, or find us wanting. At the moment, we're just not rich enough to pay for their college tuition. We have a home they can live in for free, and we offered to pay toward tuition, as best we can, but they want their 'freedom' and that costs money. We cannot afford to pay for all their college tuition, books, living expenses, etc. Obviously, therefore, they don't want a future badly enough. It is so frustrating because we are dealing with this doubly, since they are twins of 19 years old, one boy and one girl, and they both can't seem to make up their minds about what they want to do with their lives, except spend the little money they earn (minimum wages) and have fun. Again ..... AAAAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!! Every time I look in the mirror, I see more grey hairs.

I told my D13 that there is no ifs, buts, or maybes - when she graduates high school, she is going directly into college. There will be no 1 year breaks. NO WAY!!!! She just said, "yes, mom". Not sure if I detected a little gleam of amusement in her eyes or not. Hmmmm!

How are you doing BeingMe? I noticed you haven't been around so much, and it looks like you've got a lot on your plate!
Funny how "kids" these days, so many of them seem to not know what they want. Maybe there are too many options, and the lure of fame and riches seems so easy to get, when it is not. I hear you though, because I am one of those kids, changed my major five times, and I am still wondering "what do I want to be when I grow up?" I'm 32. Many of my friends are the same way, yet we've all seemed to find things that make us happy. And we've all had more than our share of parental support (financially and emotionally!). It's different times now, to be sure.

Anyway, hang in there, you are so supportive and positive on this board, I am sure you have been the same with your kids, and given them what they need to make the decisions that will work from them. And if they don't make the right choice the first time, sure they'll learn from their mistakes!

Hi Leslie! Thanks for the encouraging words. I know that no matter what I do or think, my D19 will do as she wants. She is an adult now, and all I can do now, is advise and listen, and make sure she knows that we love her and are here for her. So, that's what I'm trying to do. I keep telling myself, and my H, that it's pointless worrying too much, unless there is something concrete to worry about.

In the meantime, my S19 will be joining me on a visit to my D25 in Florida. We will first meet up with her in St. Louis where her in-laws live, and then drive down to Florida. It will be wonderful seeing the grandkids again - they have grown so much. It will be great to see my S19 again, although I did see him in March. It will be awesome to see my D25, who is such a wonderful person. I just wish D19 was coming with, but she chose not to come.

So much to do before Monday. My stopover is in Seattle - for 5 hours, so I will need some reading material. S19 flies out of Calgary, and his stopover is in Minneapolis.

I probably won't be posting too much from here on out, until the end of June. I will try and get access to a computer once we're in Florida.

Hope y'all have a good June.

I hope you catch Seattle on a sunny day, it's beautiful then. We will miss your support here over the next month. Don't worry though, I don't think we'll slide of the earth in the meanwhile. Hopefully we'll make some good improvements while your gone. Enjoy the grandkids.

Just had to bump your thread. Look at June's C mags. Try not to glue it to H's head.

Hope your trip is going well. Just another shameless bump.

If you dont' mind I'll use your quote as a signature, it is exactly what I need right now.

Those MLC do shake up everything we thought was stable.

Hey Cat03, don't mind at all!

Hi Phoenix! Thanks for the bumps! I am almost finished with my little holiday in Florida. My son and I leave for St. Louis tomorrow, and I fly out on Monday, and he on Tuesday. I am ready to go home - have so much school work to catch up on, and I miss my H and D13. But, it was nice to hang out with S19, D26 and GD1.5 and GD7. I am a bit sick of eating out, so am looking forward to some home cooking, even if it's my own.

'Til later!