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Our new nest! Well, it's smaller than the old one, and needs a lot of updating, and some renovating, but it's okay, I guess. It's not my choice - H and S18 did the house hunting while I finished up in our old house (which is 12 hours away). Selling and moving helped pay some debts which is great, so I don't have too much to complain about. On the bright side, our new home has a big garden, and it is well organized. However, I have never been much of a gardener, so will have to start learning.

I got my results back - B+ for Anatomy, C+ for Fitness Training and Health, and I failed Communications (I was most disappointed, but wasn't terribly surprised since I didn't do well in those assignments, being as it was in the middle of moving). Ah well! Move on and learn from it. I think I may register at the local college and do this full time instead of correspondence.

I have registered with a trainer who is running a fitness, weight management, and health program for 12 weeks in the new year. I am hoping to lose some weight, meet new people, get fitter, and observe a trainer at work since that is what I am hoping to do after my studies. Should be fun!

Anyway, that's all the time I have to update my sitch. You can all wake up now. Heehee! I will quickly read over the rest of the postings. Hope you all have a wonderful New Year, that brings you all that you hope and wish for, and more. You deserve it!

Hello again - Looks like we will both be students in 2006 School is such a good way to make new friends, isn't it?

Slowly

Good luck with the new term, hopefully things will improve on all fronts.

Hope things are going well in the new year. No real big news stories here. Would have loved to have had a video camera on my D4 this morning. Out of the mouth of babes. Without knowing it, she gave W a little wake up call. I didn't say much, just smiled and walk away. The "ice" seems to be melting. Keep us updated.

Life goes on! I still am unsure of keeping this M, but I have decided to give it until the end of the year, and then re-evaluate everything again. I am still carrying on with my goals, and I am happy within myself and trust that the future will be good no matter what.

I guess that kind of sums up where I'm at too. Not sure what else to change, I guess she has some choices to make now. Perhaps we'll have to see if she can swallow her pride and get down to working on marriage.

Just checking in to see what is going on. How's school? How's the new place?

Hi Phoenix! Thanks for checking in. Just got two assignments in, and our new house is okay, but still lots of work to be done.

I am okay, mostly. I have my ups and downs, and sometimes I wonder how the heck my life turned out like this. I used to be such a positive, upbeat person in my home country, always feeling things will always turn out for the best. But, since moving to North America, I find myself feeling out of place, and I lost a lot of self-esteem and confidence.

I am finding the confidence within myself again, and that took a lot of inner searching and questioning, and trying to reconcile myself with my past. However, it hasn't helped my M much. My H just expects me to trust him again, but isn't willing to earn it, at least not in the way that will help me in any way. He will not talk about how he is feeling, or much of anything else really, either. I am also feeling immensely lonely here in our new town. I just don't feel like putting in the effort to make new friends, and work on new relationships. I was very happy with my friends in our old city, and I miss them. It took time and effort to build those friendships, and now I am just feeling very much without any support. I have been seriously thinking of going back, with or without my H. I don't feel I have any emotional support here, not even from my H, who sits on his computer all night, and never initiates a talk with me, or anything, not even ! So, you can say that I am at the end of my rope, but I did decide to wait until the end of the year, and see how things are then. I doubt whether things will have improved, because I know my H from many past things that he has done. He never changes, he never tries to make up for what he has done. And, this just makes me really angry, that I have turned myself inside out trying to save our M, and our family, but he just sits back and does nothing. Very tired of it all.

Anyway, it's nice to come here and vent, and know that others feel similar feelings. At this moment, I despair of ever finding lasting happiness with H - he is too lazy within a relationship, is emotionally bankcrupt, and quite frankly, I think he is still lying about the OW and how much involvement there is. So, I am planning on moving on, but am still going to give him one last chance, but will say nothing. He has to figure it out himself this time.

It's amazing how some people get like that. In my own sitch I think I might put out job feelers and see if any "out of town" offers come back and see where the cards fall. That would definately give a clean start with D15 and W work enviroment. I suspect W will not go for it since that would more or less take the carpet out from under her. She doesn't make friends as fast as most people.

I guess we'll have to see how this plays out. Like yourself, I too am really wondering how much change has actually taken place. Good luck on the classes.

Thanks for the good luck wishes, Phoenix! I am starting to find the workings of the body quite fascinating - go figure! I am presently doing an assignment on the functions and anatomy of the heart. Quite appropriate today!

Otherwise, I am well except our 18 yr old twins have gone back to our old city - miss their friends, don't like this smaller, quieter city. I understand how they feel, but I feel sad, and I miss them. But, life goes on!