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Ok, it's a bit played out but...

Can we all just get along?

D, you've been here from nearly the start...always following my journey...always speaking up for me...always making me smile . I've never met you, but I feel like I have a big brother out there looking out for me . Please stick around. I truly appreciate your support.


Don, I have to admit that when you first started posting to me, I didn't take too kindly to you. I'm sure you sensed that. However now, well.....sometimes I laugh and think I could shake your hand or even give you a hug if you were here, and other times, I feel like I could just kick your a**! LOL!!!

I totally get the light-hearted "jokes". It takes a whole lot more than what you've said to actually offend me. If I've been able to "tolerate" being called a b**** every so often over the last 12 years, I think I can handle anything...but you'd better watch it with the "honey" remarks, Buster . They might just push me over the edge !

Ok, all kidding aside....I value what each and every one of you has to say to me. Many times, the opinions we receive are very different from others...that's what makes us all unique...and with receiving such varying POVs, it helps me focus on finding a balance....Make any sense?....It's helping me come out of my shell, so to speak....It's helping me grow....knowing that IF H wants me in his life, as his W, then things are going to be different...for the both of us.

Thanks for listening.

V - I don't post to all too many people, now before I get jumped by somebody for saying that you should feel honored that I post on your thread, that is not at all my point. I just have a very good sense and feel almost drawn or compelled to post on your thread. I am a very grounded base-line person so I don't often go on "being drawn", etc. My only intent even has been to challange you and in doing so hopefully be one or two percent of helping you put it all together. There has never been any doubt in my mind - and hopefully not yours - who's side I'm on here and it certainly is not your H. But I can't hardly come out suggesting that you continue to work on your M and hang in there if I'm calling your H a dope or any of a hundred other nasty terms I could most certainly think of, now can I. If I am on any side at all, it's on the side of M espeically with three children involved. I just think that sometimes I see stones left unturned or DB techniques that have gone a bit askew and feel compelled to comment on them. It seems as though that is how you are taking it and balancing it with the rest of the comments here. I have been very tough on you but I have never meant to hurt you or set you back in anyway. So I guess as long as you and I understand that, we don't have a problem. You'll just have to tell big brother that it's okay, you're taking care of yourself just fine. Hang in there dear (I thought I'd give honey a rest for a bit and didn't think babe was appropriate). I am just such a smart a** but hey that is me. If you'd like to read something sort of interesting and very mildly ironic, I just expalined much of this about myself on my thread. I just talked about how when people first meet me they often do not like me. It's later that they think I'm a pretty cool guy and really grow to like me - which is the exact oposite of my WAW. I wrote this like six hours prior to our little intereaction here. It's almost like I could write it now though to explain what has just gone on. If you or anyone else is interested, I'll try to copy the link here. You can even take me to task all you want - and I don't even have a big sister to help fend you off.

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