Great News! You said something about holding back from getting upset with your H about him organizing something he hadn't asked you about. I understand this. But I also want to give you a few examples of things to think about. A new way I've come to look at things of this nature.
First: My husband wanted to help me some years ago and washed a few of my favorite tops that needed to go to the dry cleaners. At one time I would have gotten so upset. But, I looked at it like...how cute, what a wonderful guy to try and wash clothes! I appreciate that. The mistake is incidental. Not worth hurting him over it. I'll just tell him my system for what needs dry cleaning.
Another one - my mom helps me 1 day at week with my laundry and a kids. When she puts stuff away from my dishwasher it is a mess and I often can't find things. She mixes up socks and underwear sometimes (even though we've told her she doesn't have to put them away). When my kids complain I say...."you just be glad you have a grandma who is alive, who is healthy, who wants to be around us, and is willing to help us. someday when she is gone we'll miss her. Let's laugh about these things because it is what makes grandma, grandma!"
I've told a number of my friends about my "petite" tops my H made for me...but it is with endearment now (at the time was I ever tempted). It is what makes him dear!
