At the ripe age of 29, you have a whole lifetime awaiting you!
That's great that he called you! Sounds like he appreciates you staying out of the middle of that family stuff. I imagine that its hard, yet you won't be associated with it, or will be less likely to be blamed or used by his ex, by doing so.
HA!HA! very ripe!! well, my niece was born on my 36th bday, so I gave this day away really. I'll always be 36, she can take over the aging.
I called her this morning and we had a nice convo too!
me: 'happy bday, n!'
her: 'happy bday aunt t'
me: 'happy bday to you, n'
her: 'no, happy bday to you, aunt t'
me: 'no, happy bday to YOU, n!'
she thinks I'm silly! Maybe since I always want her presents more than mine! (we're both big barbie lovers but nobody ever buys them for me anymore!)
Ok, this whole issue of ss14 is going to blow soon. Both his parents are fighting for him, ex is realizing that he won't be able to fight her w/o me on his side! And I am almost ready to run the other way!
What do I do w/this sitch? As his friend, I want ex to go visit the other k's this weekend, but that would give up the visit he promised to s9. I was thinking of saying we can come visit him soon, but I don't have the money to do that.
Then, of course, if he isn't sure of getting ss14's custody on his own, should I suggest that we do it together? There is so much pressure in that, but he seemed to be hinting at it this morning! Why won't guys speak what's on their mind? Is it that whole marsian thing? T
Happy belated 29th birthday! Aah, to be 29 again, what a great age....
Your interactions with XH appear to have taken on a positive note in the past week. I hope you find that job soon and settle in. I am hoping for good things for you.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
PMA went down again yesterday, somewhat unrelated to bday!
Interview on Monday went very well, QM actually offered me the job, but I called them back to thank them for the interview yesterday and HR blew me off!
I have another interview today, but not really looking forward to it. Long drive to get there since it's back roads across the state, and I am getting burned out on the interviewing process.
Yesterday, my mom waited until 9pm to call me, wished me a happy bday, I told her about ex calling, she proceeded to cut him down, and then just went on and on about their recent trip! Gee, thx mom!
Emailed ex last nite, telling him thx again for calling me and that it is ok if he wants to visit the other k's instead of visiting s9. I cried while I wrote that, but figure I will put the ball in his court to see what he does next. I know I'm upset b/c I miss seeing him for so long, but won't let onto that when he calls next. S9 doesn't know anything about this and I will keep it that way until dad can make it.
Your ability to keep plugging along is amazing. I love how this job search is pumping up your PMA. I'm sorry it is getting a bit old, and you're getting tired. But its just for a bit more, and you'll have the great benefits of a good job and a location that better suits your goals/interests.
I felt it when you described your upset over S9 missing out on his dad. S5's pain gets to me most as well. I imagine that its important for those of us LBSers with kids to acknowledge our own pain/loss as well that come about from such WAS actions.
Your ex likely feels very torn about which kids to spend time with, and this may be very confusing for a WAS with the guilt/self-centered focus thing going on.
A little bit drained (physically and emotionally) here!
Yesterday did not go well at all. Halfway to the interview, I couldn't find the right road, managed to get turned back around and came into a road construction/detour! Spent another hour just driving aimlessly, and had to cancel the interview. The company sent a very negative response back when I told them I didn't wish to schedule another interview.
Then s9 was not in much of a good mood last night, (my low didn't help any) and we tried to get hold of dad and he wouldn't talk to us!
I had a very good phone interview this morning tho, and that has helped boost me up. (it's close enough to hold on moving, too!)
Ex wants to talk this evening, which may only be a false promise. He is totally focused on his other k's now and didn't even acknowledge s9 last nite. I am trying to let go of this anger, but it's very difficult. It seems that ex blows him off since he is disabled and that is just eating at me.
Ok, breathe, in out in out a little calmer. I'll keep working on it.
this is helping! Actually, ex called just as I was posting that, so a little bit of anger was released. (sorry, fellow dbers, the pressure cooker had to let off some steam!)
But it didn't go all bad. He doesn't want me angry, said he never got the email to call s9 last nite. (likely story!)
(yet everytime I show progress on issues, it's ok that he is angry at me?)
We blamed some of the confusion this week on his other ex, which is ok w/me for now. He couldn't talk long but said he will call back tonite. So, time to gather my thoughts again.
No sooner than I posted that and I have an email from ex that his brother is in the hospital bleeding from his stomach. They can't operate until he's stable and to send prayers.
That's all he said and I will post more as I know. T
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