OK, I just finished reading (portions of) Frank Pittman's "Private Lies." I say portions because I really can't see reading it from front to back as it deals with the various types of affairs, including Romantic Infidelity.
Be prepared to face some realities if you choose to read it. But there are also some words of wisdom, i.e. "Nothing the betrayed spouse can do will affect the romance, but the romance is time limited, and will most likely fall apart. The aggrieved party might want to be there when that happens."
Another usable suggestion, "Don't try to out-romance a romantic. Don't bother to arouse jealousy. Don't try to get your partner’s attention, increase your partner’s guilt, or threaten some sort of unpleasantness. Just express your point of view and then go off and do whatever holds you together during this time.” (DB Translated=GAL & Detach!)
Anyway, I hope this helps a little. Would love to hear from some others in the Romantic Infidelity sitch to see how you’re coping.
Quote: the bottom line remains significantly the same. You have a sitch that requires your patience and your GAL, detaching, focusing solely on yourself, building a friendship if you can with the WAS by you bending over backwards and rebuilding your life come what may and letting go... and if that attracts your ex back in time then that's what happens, period.
BINGO
GG
"You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them..." The Gambler
