(Thanks Wes, Jo and Gabriel for your inputs while I was away - will address issue below).
Well, long hiatus from these parts for me. I was at a conference a large part of the week and then on the way back I caught something awful and was unable to get out of bed for the past couple of days. Since I don't have an internet connection at home (by choice, don't need the distractions of one while at home), have been away from the bb for a while. Actually, I recommend it to all. This bb is a life-saver but a hiatus from it is good, in fact it even quiets the crazymaker.
Well, the W and D3 have been away visiting MIL at her current abode in the south (in preparation for move impending here). After some thought I view MIL's move here as neutral to the sitch. She may provide support to W and soften the reality of raising D3 all by herself. On the other hand, even when she visits briefly MIL has a talent for driving W up the wall with her antiquated parenting views. For example, by holding forth on the merits of using "switches" on kids to "make them maaand (mind in southen accent)", by insisting that we teach D3 to "hush" (which given our garrulous little monster would challenge even the most practiced martinet). In short, MIL would like for me and W to be Mr. Quilp, the Dickensian English schoolmaster, determined not to spare the rod. Well, W and MIL sparred a few rounds on these issues and I just stood aside relishing these episodes with silent glee. So, my bet is, in about 3 weeks time after MIl moves here, W would have had it up to the nose with her and will be engaging in rabid depilation of her skull.
So, I will wait and watch.
Now, while my W has been down in her hometown in the south, we talked three times - First time she was cold, second time she spoke rapidly in a southern accent and claimed to be extremely happy with her trip, the third time her voice had returned to the level of sweetness that it used to have when she was still herself (I love my W's sweet voice when she is normal, boy do I love this woman!! ). Three different WAWs in a space of a week! I have mentioned before how my W changes characters sometimes, almost like she is possessed by some spirit. Snodderley in her post of six stages of MLC mentions this as "flashes" of different persolaities that emerge, almost like schizophrenia ("three faces of eve") she calls it. When I read that at first I thought "well, that's absurd, that must be exaggeration". Well, folks, I have seen it myself. My WAW has had three or four "characters" in this two-year period of her MLC or whatever this is. And her voice is different when she adopts any one of these characters. Spooky, you say? Yeah, I think it is spooky too. But if you read Peter O'Conner's book or Brehony's book, it does not seem like much of a stretch. If, indeed, in MLC, there is a battle being played out in the MLCer's psyche between the anima (the external image of the person) and the shadow (the suppressed subconscious), then it is not entirely weird that one or the other characters should surface sporadically (""there is more to heaven and earth, Horatio,....."? - I think not. This spooky behavior, or the Jekyll-Hyde nature of this MLC beast, does not need extra-scientific mumbo-jumbo for explanation in my view, no more than certifiable insanity does).
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know what you are thinking. UD has finally lost it, you say? Maybe so, or maybe it's just all the Taquilas that I imbibed in Austin. Or the heat? Well, whatever, I am back in some weird inebriated/discombobulated form I guess. Bugging Bruce with my overanalysis (sorry, Bruce, just occupational hazard).
Well, I am off to catch up on Wes' latest shenanigans. Oh, boy, whats old Wes up to now ? Too bad Gabriel has decided to stay off the forum for a while. But it may do him some good in recouping.....
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
Nice to have you back UD with all your analyzing. Sounds like things are in the status quo. Must be difficult living with the three faces of eve. I haven't seen that from my X. What I've seen is a woman that is entirely self-absorbed. I'll post that on my thread. Don't you just wish sometimes that you'd wake up and there would be some sort of change one way or the other? Even something bad or a WAW/XS wanting to vent their frustrations, anger, and pain. Anything to break the cycle.
Quote: Well, I am off to catch up on Wes' latest shenanigans. Oh, boy, whats old Wes up to now ?
No shenanigans from me. I don't even have another woman to worry about. Just single me and my single life. How's the single life going for you?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
). Three different WAWs in a space of a week! I have mentioned before how my W changes characters sometimes, almost like she is possessed by some spirit. Snodderley in her post of six stages of MLC mentions this as "flashes" of different persolaities that emerge, almost like schizophrenia ("three faces of eve") she calls it. When I read that at first I thought "well, that's absurd, that must be exaggeration". Well, folks, I have seen it myself. My WAW has had three or four "characters" in this two-year period of her MLC or whatever this is. And her voice is different when she adopts any one of these characters. Spooky, you say? Yeah, I think it is spooky too. But if you read Peter O'Conner's book or Brehony's book, it does not seem like much of a stretch. If, indeed, in MLC, there is a battle being played out in the MLCer's psyche between the anima (the external image of the person) and the shadow (the suppressed subconscious), then it is not entirely weird that one or the other characters should surface sporadically (""there is more to heaven and earth, Horatio,....."? - I think not. This spooky behavior, or the Jekyll-Hyde nature of this MLC beast, does not need extra-scientific mumbo-jumbo for explanation in my view, no more than certifiable insanity does).
? Too bad Gabriel has decided to stay off the forum for a while. But it may do him some good in recouping.....
Sounds like things are in the status quo. Must be difficult living with the three faces of eve. I haven't seen that from my X. What I've seen is a woman that is entirely self-absorbed. I'll post that on my thread. Don't you just wish sometimes that you'd wake up and there would be some sort of change one way or the other? Even something bad or a WAW/XS wanting to vent their frustrations, anger, and pain. Anything to break the cycle.