You noticed that too, huh? Like I said, I really really feel for his W, and wish she could be here. I bet she'd find some help here for straightening him out, and then maybe just maybe there'd be some progress in his household.
The thing I kind of find intersting is that I've noticed he's been on here, you know how we can view when others are on here looking at different things....but he's yet to comment....and probably won't.
If you click on someone's name to the left of the column (where it show's who posted a response) it will take you to their information page. There are some links towards the bottom of the page in red, one of them is "Add to Address Book". Click on that...then when you go to "My Home" for yourself...whoever you have added to your address book will show up under "Friends Online".
Anytime you go to a bookstore to scan a book for chapters and excerpts to validate a point, you are completely setting yourself up to carry an abnormal burden of anxiety. Many authors become very popular by validating points and/or playing around with generalities and gender sterotypes. It's all bullsh!t.
The bottom line is that viewing a spouse through the goggles of statistics will breed discontent in your own heart towards them. Ignore statistics and authors who claim to know how people generally work. In your house are two individuals, with individual desires, traits and qualities. If your spouse really doesn't naturally want sex, then take that at face value. If they were once horney but aren't anymore..tough beans, people change over time. If you assert yourself and your spouse doesn't take you seriously...then nip that behavior asap. If you want sex, ignore the voice in your head that says "she's going to reject me" and just say "hey, let's go to the bedroom baby!". If they keep saying "no", then don't make it your problem...let them know that *you* are disappointed in them - not that you are hurt. The whole process is about slightly modifying your responses to situations. It's not a hard effort...it can "feel" painful, but it it's not actually hard.
Passionate Marriage is really the first book that I've found that puts responsibility squarely on each individual to communicate and defend oneself and one's point of view. When it comes down to it, all you can do is communicate what you want and deal with whatever you get. But learning how to do this correctly can yield surprising results.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright