Thanks for your nice comments jdd, they cheer me up.
It's so nice getting positive comments from men rather than putting up with stupid 14 year old lad's and their childish behaviour.
The thing that really bugs me is I was 16 when I became H's partner and I NEVER would have behaved like that - H was 19 so he was more mature, plus he had his own problems.
I've had this problem all the way through my life so I suppose it's easier to think it is the disability - but thanks for your kind comments, my ego is rising now
Jo's picture is on the internet, book cover, or ?? Jo (only) do you want to tell us where it is? But you don't have to if you are the least bit reluctant. Being anonymous does have its advantages.
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The deliquent boys I worked with would find something "different" (different is the key word), with about 95% of the people they saw and make comments about them. It came out of their lack of self confidence and "competition within the group." I suspect the boys were acting tough or showing off for each other. It's like the dog pack mentality, wimp alone but tough dog with the group.
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Well Jo. The thugs see one thing but the people on the bb see something else that is human, caring, and wants what most mature adults want, to have and belong to a whole family.
I sent Gabriel pictures of me and my kids since he is now one of my customers, oh, and by the way, Gabe, I have done your order and will be mailing it tomorrow after I have weighed it as I have to double check postage rates for USA.
Lou, I will send you some photos too if you like. I would put them on here but there isn't a facility to attach photos.
I had 2 men smile at me and say 'hello, love' while I was out today so that was nice, and I got home before 3pm so I avoided the school kids.
'hello, love'???? I did hear that on some movies produced in the U.K. I did not if it was used as a friendly or romantic gesture. Wow, it did that make you feel good, yea.
You can't do that in the U.S. with out stirring up a bunch of being too friendly/going over board looks.
'Love' is generally a platonic term in the UK, and a lot of people use the term love even if you've never met or it's your neighbour.
Your mother can call you 'love', likewise your spouse. The actual word is very benign here - it can become romantic but that depends on your context.
Even 'darling' is acceptable as a greeting, i.e 'hey up, darlin' ' - that's just a friendly way of saying hello and a woman could call another woman 'love' or 'darling' without it being seen as sexual.
I've been referred to as 'sweetie' by a male friend, which was not flirting, but just a sort of 'I am on friendship terms with you' name.
Another term which is used around here is 'duck' - which is a slang word for 'love' or 'dear' and is used a lot in this region although if you went down South people would look at you strangely for using the term.
One man who said 'hello, love' was strimming the grass and he smiled at me with sort of 'I fancy you' kind of eyes so I smiled back and said 'hello' and the 2nd one was getting out of a truck and said the same but I didn't make eye contact with him and just said 'hello' - I was surprised that anyone spoke to me as they rarely do in this neighbourhood.
One term which IS sexual is 'babe' and contrary to popular belief it is used to describe BOTH sexes. H and I call each other babe romantically and when in bed, so if a man called me 'babe' I would be worried (!).
We also call each other dear and dearest in my immediate family. All my dd's get referred to as 'dear' affectionately, and H is always 'dearest' - the 'est' part of the word implies his sexual R with me. He also refers to me as 'dearEST' and the kids as 'dear' and I know if he does this with me, he wants a favour (not necessarily sexual).
We also say it in a joking way if one of us is nagging the other one or if we're bored or not listening, we say 'yes dearest, whatever you say.'
But yes, having 2 men notice me in one day and then Gabriel saying I'm beautiful - it had my PMA going through the ceiling
H is very lucky and he just doesn't realise how much.
H and I talked on the phone last night for over an hour about computer stuff.
He tried to fix both of my email addresses which had both gone down and after an hour of trying, he successed in getting the greekgoddess address working, but one of my other work emails still does not work, so Gabriel, I still was not able to post your order as your address was on the emails that went down.
I will do it as soon as I can figure out how to fix the problem, unless you mail again to the greekgoddess addy, which is working now, touch wood.
It was most frustrating because he spent all that time and effort trying to fix it and then as soon as we said goodbye, the problem re-occured.
I don't want to call him back as that is persual and I'd rather be 'dark' for these next few days. So I am stuck atm.
This morning my homeopathy arrived in the post which I am trying for this pelvic syndrome I suffer with, and just now my pain level is quite high so I was so happy to get these remedies. I took 2 tablets and intend to take 2 a day and see if that eases it or cures it. I have tried numerous other things, both allopathic and alternative, with no effect, so I am really hoping, otherwise I will have to persuade the dr to do experimental surgery on me which they aren't keen on doing.
At least being in pain means I'm not missing my SL with H
Went to college and did 33 pages of a text book on word processing. I knew most of it but you have to do it before you can progress to the web design. Got quite a lot done in 2 hours.
Took a really interesting call from a university student who wishes to enroll me in a study she is doing. I accepted so that should be interesting.
The thing I love about my job is that you never know what is going to happen from day to day, or who you are going to meet. The pay is rubbish, and I'm always broke, but it's worth it.
My PMA is quite good atm, but fluctuates a little because I miss them quite a lot. I keep hugging dd4 all the time and she's getting frustrated with me for hugging her too much, so she just said
