Yes I think you are right that I am angry that he blames his LL on me. It's like he doesn't want to fess up to it at all. He will go to great lengths to try and hide ANY insecurity he has. I will give you an example.... I have been trying to focus on me a lot lately. Like maybe taking a little time after work for a quick shopping trip. Or going out to lunch myself. Or one day just drove to the beach and sat and watched the waves rolling in for a bit. I spend time on the computer if I want. Well, I started noticing that he was checking up on me on the computer. I guess just trying to see what I was doing. He would have the kid's call my work or would stop in himself with the kiddos for a quick visit. Which I was happy to see the kiddos. But the computer thing irked me. So I mentioned to him that I could understand his insecurities because he knows I am not sexually satisfied. And he knows that we have this clashing libido thing( by this he knows quantity and not quality) He got SO angry by this comment and said he is not checking up on me that he could care less. Well, last week he knew my schedule and I was not supposed to work this particular day. But someone asked me to work for them. He had our daughter call me at work but in defense she did have a question she wanted to ask. Our fax was using up our direct phone line. So she couldn't get through. He drove all the way up there and didn't say hi. I knew he was there because a girl I work with was like your hubby was just here. I asked him when I got home and he used a lame excuse for going up there. So deep down I know he is insecure but he sure doesn't want it to show.
