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This all sounds very positive to me, csw. I think you're definitely on the right track.

Hairdog

Way to go...
Looks like you're turning a corner. Like my mom always advised me: "When proposing changes with a stubborn people, remember it has to be THEIR idea."
Looks like your W is coming around.

It sounds like your W is seeing what we all know, that you da man, csw. Keep up the good work.

Thanks for all the attaboys. I am not counting any chickens here, and I am crtainly not holding my breath.

Today was a good day. At 11:30, the manager said, "we're leaving at 12." I said "who, you and BM?", "No, me and you. We're meeting BB at the Smokehouse for lunch." So , the big boss wanted to meet with me and the manager to discuss some of the ideas that I have shared with BB while hanging with the guys at the pub. The prospects for quick growth in the company look very good. The best part is, I like gear of all sorts, and I get to see and sell nifty stuff in the name of recycling. BB & lb both thought I should move to procurement in addition to being the main photographer.

Some of the other "pumpers" at work now have a bit of attitude, especially since BB sent a pallet of extra choice gear on the truck today with my name on it. They all share skids three ways, and I get my own. They really won't like me when they hear I want to do away with the "bonus" incentive for the listers, in favor of a "specialist" system that fosters more uniform and factual listings, and less neg feedback. Obviously incentives are necessary, but their program seems to cause sellable low end stuff to get tossed, and high end stuff to short sell due to lack of good images and text.

W called this afternoon, to check on me. She had forgotten my appt is tomorrow. I was brief with her at work, but thanked her for her concern and for calling. I called her back after work, to tell her about my day, and dsome other minor news. She answered her phone, miraculously. We chatted for a while, since my call synced perfectly with her break. She had worked very late last night, so I encouraged her to go soak in the IL's hot tub instead of working late again. As we ended the conversation, I told her I had been thinking of her, and that it was good to talk. She called again a few hours later, to ask me to record lost for her. We chatted a bit more, and I suggested that we end the call since she was driving in traffic.

Pleasant but minor changes are becoming visible in W's demeanor. A nice thing to behold, but it could all change back again. The weather is tricky around here.

Pretty soon, YOU'LL be the Big Boss, csw.

Also, I really love "LOST." What's in that hatch?

Hairdog

csw,

I'm so glad to hear that you had one entirely pleasant day! I really do believe your W is slowly working her way back to you...sure she could turn around and be a shrew tomorrow, but your interactions with her for this one day were all positive!!! That had to feel good!! There's more of this to come.


Also, when you get a chance would you pop in on Help-Needed's thread? She's pretty much where you were at when you first started posting...she has an H who is trying desperately to push her away (like your W)...as far as I know no OW involved, but other than that similar circumstances. She really needs someone who is currently going through something similar to give her their perspective and support.

GEL

I just returned from the Endocrinologist. I didn't get any good news. My overall testosterone level is low, but my serum level is normal/low. My FH(? gonadotropins) is on the low side as well. So, technically, there is enough serum test, but the signal is being missed somewhere. I have to get an MRI of my pituitary to rule out any problems there (damage, cancer, etc)

Doc said if that test is normal, that he thinks my dietary and exercise changes should solve the problem. He said that testosterone therapy shouldn't be concsidered due to possible serious fertility issues. He said that there were other options to stimulate my own production, if necessary.

I was really hoping for some good news today, but instead my fears were reinforced. W was kind and sympathetic on the phone, and seemed genuinely concerned with how I was handling the news. She said she would be home for dinner.

Tonight is my first yoga class. I hope it will help me deal with stress.

csw,

Hang in there on this...get things checked out. If there is any problems then these tests were a silver lining for you to catch something early (should there be any problems, hopefully there aren't). Otherwise, as your Doc said your dietary changes should turn things around for you ;-) That and the fact that you are now aware that in the past there was a problem.

I'm really glad to hear your W is talking more with you. I really do believe she's starting to see your consistency at work...and the fact that you made a Dr. appt, and followed-through w/it shows you are really taking this seriously. It's just another action backing up your words.

You're doing great!!
GEL

Fears of what?

It all sounds good to me; diet and exercise as a solution sounds pretty good to me. Are you referring to the possible pituitary cancer?

Have they done any bloodwork? I would think that they would have also looked at white blood cell count during that workup to rule out anything suspicious on that, wouldn't you?

Chin up, my friend. I think you sound mahvelous. Your W is certainly intrigued by the new you. Two gasps is nothing to shake a stick at and you can build from there. Ol' squirrel better be lookin over his shoulder.

P.S. Now that I know what the squirrel is in reference to, I get icked out thinking of him. As a bona fide HDW I would not want flappy arm skin wrapping itself around me. There is no doubt in my mind that she will come to her senses soon.

xo

YUP to everything GEL said... you are handling all these "tests" in your life in such a mature and strong way...it's noticed here on the board, and I am sure by W as well. Sending you positive thoughts...

IHJ