I think you are right on about the benefits of your H interacting with more people and possibly experiencing different ways of being.
You seem like such a nice complement of his somewhat 'rigid' way of living, with your more freeflow way of functioning and expressing yourself. I hope that you can celebrate that difference b/t the two of you.
I liked Lou's comment about parental involvement improving schools. I see that as well.
The funny thing is, it was me that made him like that. When we were kids, he used to pick on me for eating 'rabbit food' and was so conventional in all his thoughts.
I used to dread dinner times at his house because he just bullied me. I really disliked him then, he used to block doorways and stuff so I couldn't get through and he locked me in his bedroom once for hiding his rubix magic cube.
He used to tell me what time I could go to bed and say 'I'll tell my mum if you're not in bed by 9pm'. He'd get mad if I got in the shower before him on a school morning and basically teased me rotten. I thought he was a geek - basically one big pimple as his face was covered in acne.
I used to think 'I pity the woman he marries' and I didn't realise she was me!!
When we met up again the year we fell in love, I showed him this video called 'Food without Fear' which showed graphic animal cruelty and he went vegetarian overnight. He started going with me to all the protests, we'd talk for hours about all sorts.
He used to favour the death sentance for murderers and be pro-abortion etc, whilst eating chicken wings down at KFC By the time he moved in with me, he was almost as hippy as me. Then we had our children, I taught him about the Steiner School, natural birth, extended breast feeding, cloth diapers etc. I basically taught him most of what he believes in now - the only thing he didn't get from me was his belief in reincarnation, which I also believe in.
Through my business we started working together and got more and more involved with various different issues. Then he left me and through everything that happened after, he broke me completely.
I kind of died spiritually and when I re-surfaced, I realised that although I still believe in all these things wholeheartedly, the most important thing is love, so it doesn't really matter what anyone believes.
I don't care if someone's Christian, Catholic, Buddist or whatever and I don't care if they eat meat or not, or how they chose to educate their kids, because the thing that counts is whether they have love in their heart. Provided people respect my right to raise my family as I wish, I never say anything about it.
Except he is now like the person I was when we met, very passionate about everything. I do think this is a quality of his, he's very steadfast, but sometimes I feel he rubbish's others opinions because they don't match his own.
Don't get me wrong, I am very proud of his achevements. I think it's amazing what he's done with his home ed group. He runs it for the whole of his town, and I share his view on public schools - it's just at the time I felt there was no other option and I think that home ed has as many disadvantages.
I would send her to the Steiner school if I could afford it. We go to the Steiner toddler group. When she's 3 she'll go to nursery and by the time she's 4, her father and I will likely be living together so she'll probably end up home educated like her sisters.
3. Picked up my groceries/ gone to the post office.
4. Found bargain kid's video for 50p in charity shop.
5. Ordered 'What Men Want' book and DVD which is a sexual instruction DVD so I can be a better wife Also ordered see-through lingerie as well
6. Spoke to IVF clinic re egg donation. Have to go in and have blood test on day 2 of my next period.
7. Rang job centre who have financial aid for people with their own businesses and they told me I can get �300 to print more of my books if I go in and apply. I have set up a meeting to do that.
They will also increase my disability benefit for 6 months if I go on their scheme.
8. I have booked a day trip to the beach (in July) for me and Alicia.
Oh I am aware he is a lucky man. If fact, if he compliments me I say 'I know I am, thanks for reminding me' or 'I know, but I'm glad you noticed'
I plan on answering the door one evening, dressed in a see-through babydoll.
I forgot to say I also got this board game at the same time called 'Lust' and it's designed for couples. You have to discuss all your fantasies in order to win the game.
He doesn't know it yet, but he's playing that game with me
Jo.
PS: it's important, DB'ers, NOT to try this at home until you are in the 'dating' phase.
You just reminded me of that bit in Shrek 2 where Pinoccio says he's wearing women's underwear and his nose doesn't get any longer so they say 'Are you?' and he says 'No' and his nose gets longer, and this other character says 'Yes he is, yes he is!, it's a thong!'
But still, it applies to men too as you could have come wandering out of the shower in just your towel saying 'Hey there, W, do you fancy a coffee?' and at your stage in friendship it would have ruined the DB'ing
Good list. (charity shop) So that is waht you call them in the UK. GoodWill or the church donation store in the US. Are biscuts like US cookies (chocolate, oatmeal, butter, Oreos) or soda crackers? #5 , I like feel through myself. Lose waist, open front OOPS / sorry, way to much information
Wet, heavy snow today The electricity was off for 12 hours (9AM to 9PM). So no posts on 4/19 and this late/early post on 4/20 at 2:15 AM.
Jo, I am just curious. What tempature do people generally set their thermostat to in their houses. I am mostly looking to see what ranges of tempatures Brits consider normal when they have to pay the heat bill. I know people who live in flats/apartments where the heat is included in the rent, tend to set the thermostat about 4 to 6 degrees warmer than people in housed where the occupier has to pay the heat, electricity, and water bills.
Back in 1906, just kidding. I mean back in 1974 when my monthly heat bill was $25 I used to set the thermostat to 70 or 72 degrees F. Now that heat bills ate $125 to $175 a month in the winter, many people set the thermostat to 65 to 68 degrees.
I have an older relative with poor circulation and low blood pressure, she likes it 82 to 84 F in her apartment. Heat and electricity is included in the rent so 65f or 84f degrees cost the same.
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