Cont.... So that threw me for a loop. Why would he say something like that? Who knows....lol! Well, it makes me feel as if maybe the OW was there.....I can't do anything about it so i am not oing to dwell on it. I just feel like H is trying to make me out to be someone that I am not. H asked me what I am doing for my bday tomorrow and I told him that I am going for a massage because I don't want him to know that I am going away for the weekend because I don't want him at the house just because I am gone. What to do now?????Should I say anymore about him lying?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DEAR MICHELLE...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!
Happy Birthday Michelle. I hope you get what ever it is that you want today. You seem (from this distance) a very special person who your H probably doesn't deserve. I know, that's not for me to say, (oh well).
Enjoy your weekend away and enjoy your special day...
Good for you for not letting your H throw you with all his 'talk'. As far as him wanting to come home, saying it and proving it are two different things, you seem smart enought to know differance!
Take some quiet time to hold your daughter and congratulate yourself on going through this terrible time with your compassion and dignity intact. Look at your daughter and know that you are making good choices. And eat LOTS of cake!!
I want to Thank everyone for all of my birthday wishes it made me feel so good. I did go to La Quinta for the weekend (Palm Springs) and relaxed until the earthquake on Sunday morning. I was at Mc Donalds with D1 and my 2 Godsons and cousin. This loud noise started and then the ground started shaking like crazy and everyone was screaming "Run" I stayed calm and ran with the kids to the parking lot and we rolled with the ground and then it stopped. I was so nervous...lol!
Well, my birthday went okay. H left a card for me on the televison on Friday and in it he said that he loves me....he also wrote a note and told me to enjoy my weekend and that he would bo okay and to not worry about him. I knew something was up. H text messaged me on Friday with "Happy Birthday Old Lady!" and I tried to call him back but of course his phone was off. I found out on Sunday that he went to a wedding in Vegas for a friend of OW. H said that he went up to Vegas with a bunch of guys that he use to work with..and he told me that he was not with the OW. I feel that is hard to believe but what can I do about that...he chose that over spending any time with me. H came over Sunday night and was really nice...I figure that was because of guilt. I don't know if I can believe him or if I want to. I was hurt that he didn't call. Well, of course we get along because he can do whatever he wants and I just don't say anything but I am getting tired of this. I just want to feel happy and be loved. I feel that insted of turing off his phone and having no contact with me then it should be really easy for him to do that to her. To end this thread H and I spoke las night and we got along good until he wanted to get off the phone and I was stil talking about bills and things. Thats when he got upset and told me that I was keeping him on the phone...WTF! So..he told me that he would call me later because he was at his uncle's house....Guess What? No call...:-) I knew that was coming! What does anyone make out of all of this?
I have to say that your H seems like a master-manipulator. Not that any of our WAS are exactly treating us the way we deserve to, something about your H's attitude really concerns me. I'm sorry to say that, since I really don't know you.
It just seems like he swings wildly to both sides. I think maybe you should go dark for awhile. Get some power back for yourself.
And do something good for yourself today. And after you do it, post so that I can be happy for you. And maybe copy your idea and do it for myself.
Okay hello everyone! You might think that I am crazy but I feel that I need a lot of help right now. I guess that I need people to really point blank tell me what I should do. H and I talk if we need to but then this morning we were talking about Fourth of July. H said that he doesn't think that we should have a party because as of right now we are not together...and he doesn't know if we will be together then....Why does he say this stuff. Then, H said that he knows that we are married if he likes it or not. I couldn't help it...I know I started crying...how awful of me...I shouldn't have but I culdn't hold it back...it hurt me so bad. I asked him why did he say that....H said that I always here the negative part of things. Well, whats the positive. Now we are here and on Friday night he wrote me that card on how he loves me. WTF??? I feel like he might be throwing me a line and reeling me in and then throws me out even further. I am wondering if he doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to pay child support or maybe he never wants to marry again. Sometimes I feel positive and then he gets mean and I always forgive him because I want things to be better. I also am thinking that he might just have fallen out of love with me and says he doesn't want to fight because of what we had...not what we will have ever again. Please give me input. I am suppose to talk to him later this evening. One more thing...his car broke down awhile ago and he might just need me for my credit so that he can get a new one. I wouldn't mind if we were working on M but I can't bare to think that he will be with someone else in a car with my name on it.... I feel like I am going crazy....please help me out of my slump...don't be afraid to say something that will hurt me...I am already hurt!
