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#451390 05/01/05 06:09 PM
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I now get to look at my X and not listen. Wow. Pisses her off. Her problem, not mine. Our s6 gets bruses on his legs, she wanted me to take him to the wall in clinic, I said he is a boy that runs every where. He has my co-ordination, or lack there of. I think he is just a kid. So of coarse she said she will take him to make me feel guilty. This sucks.
So off I go this afternoon to waste an hour of a Doctors time to say he is normal. We have had to do this about 5 times in 6 years.
Why can she just not live, but instead feel all things are a problem.

just venting.

I entered a dualathon for next Saturday in Penticton. Should be fun to race again.
Off to Revy and the pool.
Rusty


#451391 05/03/05 02:25 AM
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Just an update, and a question,
Lawyers meeting Wednesday to sign the separation papers.

Then she has to pay me out on the house.
She said to me this last Sunday, "with all the money I will have could I buy a play set for her yard?"?????????????????????????????????I tried not to react. I think I did OK, as I asked, Who would put it together?
what should I think at that?
Does that strike anyone else as wrong? Do you buy expensive gifts to improve her house, after you have split up? I know my kids would love it, and if I have lots of money. I would. But I do not. I want to use the money to buy a house for me and the kids when I have them.

I have enter a duathalon on Sat, should be fun.
I have a date for Sunday night
I hope I survive.

Russ


#451392 05/03/05 08:17 PM
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Hey Russ,

Sorry I haven't been around.

Wow, your WAW knows how to give it to you.

I would not get the playset. If you are planning on getting a house, I would wait and buy one for your place.
She choose this life without you don't let her make you feel guilty.

Focus on YOU and your kids. Detach, Russ. You have to for your sanity. I know it is hard. I could be in your shoes one day. I know I would be lost trying to date. Can't even imagine it. Be strong and keep moving forward one day at a time.

Sherry

#451393 05/05/05 12:52 AM
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Thanks sherry,
Had the family supper tonight.
was asked to come to supper on sunday, Mothers day...said yes...then I remembered the hot date I have that night, Quickly had to re-neg.
I do feel a little guilty because she did say fathers day was coming. Am I suppose to get her a gift from the kids?
They are making her stuff at school and daycare.
Asked the kids they said they were looked after.
What to do?

Help.
Rusty

#451394 05/05/05 01:59 AM
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You might go out with the kids if that is possible and let them pick out a little something. I would make it something inexpensive and definately from the kids.
A nice gesture on your part but don't let her think you had an influence on the gift. You just want your kids to have something to give her.

Just my two cents worth. I wish my H would do that. He never takes the kids, he just picks up something. I doubt he will this year but that is okay with me. I will treasure what the kids make from school.

Sherry

#451395 05/05/05 02:34 AM
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Thanks,
I will take them to the local 1.00 store and set a budget of say 5.00.
That does well nice to do.

I did want to get her a ring with the kids birth stones. Too much $$ and I think the wrong message.

To make myself feel better, I bought a camera/video for the computer...Look out lava....I'm comin' in.

Rusty

#451396 05/10/05 10:04 PM
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Had some dates, its not what I expected....
Sep. Papers all done, should be paid ot by weeks end.

I love my kids.
I miss them because i do not see them each day.
On my holiday coming up i should do he lunch switches with the kids and show Tammy what it is like when one does not see the kids, each day.

Had another girl call me today for a date....I just do not feel interested, you know, i'm flatered,...mixed feelings.


Thanks Russ


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Russ,

Buy a playset for the kids at your new house. She's taken advantage if the sit enough. Now it's time to think of ways to enhance the kids at your place. Just my opinion.

Happy

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Thanks HT

Looks like I may end in a condo, maybe I will get the kids a tent to set up inside the den, or something like that.

Rusty

#451399 05/12/05 05:01 PM
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WAW brought up the play center, said no, and nothing more.
She said she would ask her brother to buy???
Why does she not just play with them? Push them on a swing.
I have been riding my bike lots and see so many play centers sitting unused. Why make another one? I do think my kids would play with it but for how long?

I have the kids for the weekend, may go look at some condo's.

Don't feel much like dating.
Do not like being alone.

Have a nice day.

Russ

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