Before you jump on that bandwagon and get your hopes up that this could be your magic cure....go to the Dr. and have thorough bloodwork done...explain to him/her what is going on w/you and have the proper tests done.
This was something I finally convinced my H to do before counseling....at that time I was 90% sure that MUST be the problem...his testosterone level came back normal/high....so it wasn't the problem.
But do, if nothing else, rule it out...do it for yourself.
Appointment made, but no big hopes. Its worth a shot, and the diagnosis would be worth a ton in W's eyes, then she wouldn't see me as broken, only off-kilter.
This talk reminds me of a three legged sculpture I made in college I titled, "Preposterone" the dean bought it, but couldn't handle looking at the bumpy copper "third leg" (BTW the dean must not have understood the meaning of the sculpture, most lesbians would have gotten a kick out of it, but not her)
Research shows that overall, baldness is a strong indicator of high desire. Why? Becuase high levels of testosterone KILL hair. The testosterone causes chemicals to build up in hair folicles and clog them up preventing hair growth. I am not sure how this effects the rest of body hair though.
I want you to be aware of something, should your tests all come back fine. When my H went in I figured that he just MUST have low testosterone. When the results came back and that wasn't it...well, to be honest....I was shattered!
In my eyes, that meant it wasn't something chemical in him....it had to be ME! Now, of course I know that's not the case now, but that was my reaction then. My self-esteem went blooooie! I was crushed...I thought "WTF!! What happens now!??"
Soooooo...please, please, please, have yourself a plan of action in case of this possible outcome. My H really drug his feet about the next step...I truly came close to leaving before he would agree to counseling.
Do you feel it would be possible to sit down and discuss the possible avenues for the two of you before getting your results back. I know if my H would have done that w/me it truly would have helped. At least if he would have done that I would have felt that he was trying to do SOMETHING rather than saying..."well the Dr. says I'm fine." Which of course twisted around in my brain to "well the Dr. says I'm fine, so it must be you!"
GEL, I appreciate that insight. I am not telling W that I am getting the test. I am seeing IC already, so I am working all avenues to the source of my prob. I know it isn't W's fault that I am LD. She is beauooootiful! She definitely took her hits to the self esteem already. I am quietly persuing this posibility, in the hope that I can share the test results with her. If the results are normal, I will sit on them until a later date.
I am sure I am fine (well, almost), but my SD isn't. I will look into all possible reasons. Depression is a possibility. Self medication... the couple beers, worrying about performance first because I can be a quick draw, second because I had a feeling W was finishing the job herself (I got that feeling one of the last times we ML, Last year ) Waiting till we were in bed to discuss issues, NOT discussing issues, eating dinner after 9:30, not enough protien, CSA. All these things are contributing factors. All are workable, but I need a partner to work with...
I am desperately trying to find these solutions and am starting with the no blame options like hormones. I feel bad not sharing with W, but I don't want her to think I am looking for excuses.
I have my doubts after researching a bit, but the survey sez....
Ok, I just wanted to make sure that she didn't get her hopes up to have them dashed with a "normal" test result...as wierd as that sounds LOL.
With what you've described you sound sooooo much like my H. He too can be a bit of a quick draw, he's more worried about that than I am in fact. I'm sure he thought that bothered me...but it really doesn't...as I've told him there are plenty of other things he can do for me that I would love too! I think he's finally beginning to realize, I'm sincere about that.
So...along that vein, what do you do to make sure your W doesn't have to "complete the job" herself?
(BTW the dean must not have understood the meaning of the sculpture, most lesbians would have gotten a kick out of it, but not her) 
) Waiting till we were in bed to discuss issues, NOT discussing issues, eating dinner after 9:30, not enough protien, CSA. All these things are contributing factors. All are workable, but I need a partner to work with...