I for one LOVED your analogy. It hit home with me, because I feel the same way. I mean, okay, don't have sex with me. But give me something, here! How about a kiss with a little tongue, or the occasional mindless grope?
That's exactly how I feel, Paul. A passionate kiss and a head scratch, and I'd slay dragons for her! He!!, I'd probably even clean the garage!
Hee hee. Glad my H could provide a bit of levity this morn.
He is truly not a stupid man, just DENSE when it comes to sex and intimate touching. He needs a map..a plan on how to proceed and what to do when. He'd do great with MrsNOP giving him play by play instructions and he'd do it once more, with feeling, and it would be sincere. He flounders when it's all up to him. His mind races and he focuses on my words and trying to determine precisely where he fudged up. So all he heard was "you don't call me"........duh.
Of course, the other explanation is that he truly is stupid.
Just a few questions on the scheduling thing. Why do you have to get the kids out for a few hours? It is customary to ML in the bedroom at night when the kids are asleep in another room. Actually, I sympathize with your wife a bit. Those few waking hours on Saturday are prime time to get stuff done. But how much can you get done at 11:00 at night or 5:00 in the morning? At some point my W told me she prefers it early in the morning. Not that I can just have her any morning, but my odds are drastically improved at an early hour.
Maybe the two of you should put some care into choosing the day and time. Try this: "Honey, I realize that Saturday during the day is a good time to do stuff around the house. What if we try Saturday night after the kids are in bed? That way you will be less inclined to want to do stuff." You might want to be on your best behavior on Saturday. Work really hard on projects, even feign or exaggerate injury if you think it might help generate a little sympathy.
I want the scheduled time to be something that will actually happen, that we can count on. That won't work for us at night, for various reasons. For example, getting the 2-year old to sleep at a reasonable time is not happening much lately. Just a phase, I suppose, but it's been a struggle. By the time we're alone, W is probably tired and does not feel good. Among other things, she has a bad back that tends to bug her at night but not so much earlier in the day. So nightime is okay if it works out, but I wouldn't want to count on it. Afternoon seems like a much better option, but as we saw this past weekend, it's no sure thing either.
Are you getting the feeling that there will always be an excuse, no matter what time or day we pick? Yeah, me too.
It may be that the schedule thing just isn't for us.... which begs the question, what is?
Quote: If Paul is an "unlucky" name in this regard, I wonder what would be a "lucky" name? And how long does it take to get your name legally changed....?
I'm thinking something more manly, virile. I'm personally leaning toward "Tar," or -- if that's not available -- then maybe "Nails."
Chocolateeyes, who THOUGHT all women loved to lick chocolate
