Must have been a full moon or something. All I can say Greeneyedlass is that I got lucky too. W did not initiate and I ignored some of her resistance. I could see she was just draging her feet, but the big event happened after a dry spell. I even acted like a SS woman might act. Said a few things that might be a little to bold to post. I tried to make it fun and sexy. I hope I did not over do it. I think fun and sexy takes some of the pressure of. Just posting what worked for me.
What can you do that makes sex fun for you and H? Just trying to help you, I dont want to give a woman too much advice.
Coffe cup raised to Greeneyedlass and her H, clink.
GEL, that is awesome. I really admire your patience and your positive attitude. I hope this is the turning point for you and hubby. I would gladly join you and HP for that drink.
GEL, Congrats on the LM coup! My mimosa flute is raised to you. Maybe he may be agreeable to talk about what led to your hot night together.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Well...my H went to see our new counselor for the first time yesterday. Low and behold he told me he really likes her, likes her much better than he liked his other therapist. I didn't ask, he volunteered this information.
He found out they have some things in common (they're both Methodist) which I believe he finds comforting. He told me that there were several things that his other therapist (who was male) did that he just didn't quite see eye to eye with, although he had never told me that before. I guess his last therapist was more concerned on doing bio-feedback exeriements with him than actually talking.
Anyway, I got a very good vibe from my H yesterday when he called to tell me this info. He sounded very optimistic, it made for a very good day for me :-)
Today I meet with her again one-on-one, after that we will meet with her together, which I'm really looking forward to. I know it's not going to be easy for either of us, but I just know our marriage is going to be so much better for this in many ways....and I truly do believe our SL will improve as a result, no it may not be what some HD folks would consider good/great...but you know what? I'm going to be happy with it!! Why? Because I know my H and I are going to be closer as a result of all of this.
GEL: My W and I have our weekly MC meeting today. We have a lot to talk about, but I find it's the fastest hour of the week.
If it weren't for counseling, I don't know if we'd still be together. I come out of the meetings full of hope, although it tends to dissipate that very night, when W berates me for bringing something up, or doesn't want to talk, or touch. What can I say...we're working on it.
Do you think she is going to C just to appease you? Does she think you are supposed to go to C and only bring up the good things? hmmmmm Maybe you can bring up to the C how you feel you really screwed up with the dog pills and such when she was gone. If I did that, I would be sure to tell the C exactly why I did that and ask for suggestions on how to stop doing it. Just a thought. Didn't you say her homework for this past week was to be more loving towards you?
Hi annette. I've got a lot of stuff to bring up at the C. And yes, she was supposed to be more loving to me, but I didn't see it...certainly not after the dog pill incident.
No problemo Yesterday when my H and I spoke about our C and the fact that he feels comfortable with her...I did bring up the fact that I was really glad he felt that way because we're at a point now where the I feel the only way to work through our problems is to talk them out....together.
Surprisingly enough...he agreed. This is coming from a man who HATES to talk about emotions etc.
I'm pretty sure now by things that my H has said that his previous C wasn't really addressing problems. But I think the time he spent going to see him gave me the time to prove to him that I'm supportive of him...and that I really am in this for the long-haul, I'm not going to high-tail it for the closest available, financially secure, sexually charged man that I can find....in fact, I'm not going anywhere!
I have a feeling the next few months could be very interesting for us indeed!
I have to admit that everytime I see someone reply to Annette I wonder how someone knows my name LOL. Although it's not Annette, it's pretty close and it always gives me a double take LOL
Yesterday when my H and I spoke about our C and the fact that he feels comfortable with her...I did bring up the fact that I was really glad he felt that way because we're at a point now where the I feel the only way to work through our problems is to talk them out....together.