Thanks for the input guys. I have given some more thought and I have decided not to give it to her. It just doesn't feel right. I do think that it made me feel better writing it, so it wasn't a waste. Her B-day is this week. I thought that I might get her a new movie. The V.C.R. I borrowed her ate one of her tapes so I thought that I would replace it. A gift from the kids. I offered to take her out to dinner on Friday. She sounded happy and said that she would give it some thought. I'll wait for her to respond. Have a great one. Peace out,
I hope you're feeling better today. Honestly, I felt you sinking into negativity and that is one sure way of ruining the DB'ing so if I notice you slipping down that path I will remind you of it.
I want to help you win your W and I truly understand what you are going through, but I won't validate negative emotions as these will only hinder your progress both in yourself and with your W.
I didn't think it would be a killer if you sent, but I can't argue with those who said don't send it. If she is truly moving back to you, she will let you know. So keep the positives coming.
Ioavva, It gets worse. This is the 13th hour of a roundtrip to Chicago. I wasn’t feeling well so instead of brooding at the apartment I came to the office and read an email from my lawyer. It opened with telling me he heard from her lawyer that she raided the bonus. Second was this message with the names removed “He also said that he is concerned that you are going to be angry and confront her. He asked that you not do that, and work through me.” The more I detach, the more I validate her feelings and the more time elapses the worse it gets. What kind of person who stated in the proposed settlement that she wishes an amicable settlement would behave like this? Why does this continually deteriorate? Why the character assassination? Running on Empty III
