Good to hear from you. I posted on your thread but I didn't see it there later so it must be lost in cyber space somewhere. I will go back and check in with you sitch.
Yea! One day down. Good for you, setting small goals (like no texting). I think I will take baby steps here and proceed slowly. No emails unless he emails first. I definately need to focus on me and the kids. I also need to THINK before I open my mouth. In our R discussion before things got really ugly, H said he had been happy some at home. I also asked if he had lessened his contact with OW. I asked him to try and do this last week during another R talk. Last night he said yes he had (of course no details). I don't know though, he may have been saying it to shut me up. I will have to wait until the cell phone bill comes. I am not going on line and checking. So I need to "act as if" and make home happy and safe (comfortable) that is what the phone counselor suggested. Like I said one day down. Take care and check in later. Sherry
Hi Gboat, Good to hear from you again. Do you have a thread?
Way to go on not bringing up OM ( a month, Wow, very impressive). I hope to be there one day. Slowly but surely I am realizing I need to focus on me and my children. Like you it takes time to get things through my thick skull, too. God has gotten me this far, too. I pray daily and rely on Him for strength. I don't think I could do this without Him. Keep in touch Sherry
Your kids need and love youand they will remember it all. they see way more than you think. my S6 said to me last night, " not to replace MOM" She has tried to replace me already, OM was never in front of the kids( so she said), but they knew...They are so smart.. Be true to yorself and your kids. You will be a rock.
have a good night.
winter is coming back on Saturday here, has been nice to be 10 above for the last week 10 days. Oh well snow big deal..Looks pretty...
Russ, Thanks, doing better. I will be a strong today. You are right about the kids. I often wonder what they think? They havent said much. But they know mommy has been a bear and have seen me cry. So that has to STOP. H has always been a little emotional and over the top, so I think they think his behavior is fairly normal. He has actually been a little better with the kids since this has happened. Go figure. You be strong for your kids too. Hope you have a good day. SherryL
I don't neccessarily think it is horrible if your kids see you cry as long as it isn't constantly. They hurt too and although we need to be strong for them it is ok to let them know that expressing emotion is ok. The most important thing is that they know that both Mommy and Daddy love them very much and no matter what is going on that will not change and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with them.
Hang in there...if you want to email H come here and post your email instead...
Thanks, I needed to hear that. I have been beating myself up about the kids. I do need to be happier for them. They know that they are loved, though.
I have not emailed H today only thought about it once but did not act on it. He said it was ok to email him. But I am giving him space.
Bad morning at work (not from H or sitch ). AAAGGGGHHH, parents. Okay for all you parents out there, leave your kids teachers alone. We work hard and don't get paid enough (at least in Texas-we are below national average). Enough said. May take the kids out to eat for chips and dips (daughters word for Mexican food). Won't ask H, will just let him know what we are doing. Bye for now, Sherry
Well I emailed him (only after he emailed me first ) to let him know of my dinner plans. Pretty much told H, I am taking the kids to... and left it at that. No invite. He reminded me of a meeting he had but said to wait for him.
Funny. Work has been stressful the last few weeks. Was talking to a few people about a problem parent and some things going on. Someone commented you are going to need some valium before this school year is over. I thought if you only knew what I was going through. Thought that was very ironic. Stress at work is the least of my problems. At least I have something to focus on and keep me occupied. Check in later. Gotta go get the kids. Sherry
Proud of myself. H started telling me about being in the library and seeing one of his old students from last year in the library with his class. This is the student who has an aide and the aide H had an A with. OW still works with this kid (fortunately not with H anymore--they worked together last year). So while H is telling this story about his old student and the incident that occurred in the library, I am smiling, nodding,and asking questions. On the inside I am screaming , was OW there too? But I just kept it in my head. Good DBing, right. Lousy day at work, head hurts. Think I will go to bed early. Two days down, not R talk, keeping things happy at home. YEA!! Sherry
). AAAGGGGHHH, parents. Okay for all you parents out there, leave your kids teachers alone. We work hard and don't get paid enough (at least in Texas-we are below national average).
