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A definite something new for me last night!!!!!!!! Thanks to Ms. Sage sending me a link and my boss loaning me his jumper cables I managed all on my own to get my van started last night!

I backed it out of the garage a week ago to work on the garage and 2 hours later it wouldn't start. Dad has been going to come down and try to jump it but it kept sitting in my way and now the paper plate has expired as well. So it was one of those things I wanted to get something going on as I am now doing dog activities and would like to have the van to drive!

Thank you Ms. Sage for the link it was a big help.

After I got it started dad ended up calling me and he was coming down to get it and take it to a local shop to have the battery replaced.

So it is gone now but hopefully on its way to being ready to drive soon. Now to figure out something on the plates and we will be good to go!!!

I think I need to try something challenging or out of the norm this week -- YOU are my inspiration!!!!

Sage

You know....it never dawned on me that you might not know HOW to jump start a vehicle Why didn't you say something....LOLOL. Did you have your dad do as I suggested last night or is he just going to leave it up to the garage?

I was going to ask if you were going to do the agility in E'ville as well? I might could get T to take me down there. I think Lady would be a great agility dog...she definitely has the speed and the willingness to please The only hindrance is I think she has ADD

Hugz,
Zoo

Hi Ms. Sage,

I don't think I'm an inspiration. I was just frustrated with the vehicle sitting in my driveway all that time and not able to do a thing with it.

I must be slowly coming back to myself, I did a google search this morning.

Necessity is the mother of taking chances.

Mark Twain

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You know....it never dawned on me that you might not know HOW to jump start a vehicle

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I hadn't decided to even TRY jumping it till that day and I did think of e-mailing you but I don't always hear back for a while.

The herding is the only thing so far that I am driving to Evansville to do.

I could check and see if I can find if they have agility classes somewhere in Evansville.

I was hoping to work Tara this weekend but single digit weather coming in isn't going to induce me outdoors to play on the equipment!!!

So tired today. For the past two nights I just can't stay asleep. Then I lay awake and my mind just goes all over the place and none of it seems any sort of clear thinking.

I know being tired does not lend itself to me doing any sort of clear thinking and I have felt so swamped with the van, the attorney thing, the J thing and then PK on top of it all.

The realtor e-mailed me yesterday to see what is going on with PK. I wrote back and let her know that D and I haven't communicated in any way since we met her to go through the house and that I had no idea what was going on with the house.

Thankfully my van is making some progress and I have a start on the letter to A that I need to finish up and send soon.

I have also been posting in Newcomers a bit and I hadn't been there in over a year I bet. I just get too darn emotional wrapped up in things.

I know that is one of the things I need to work on in myself.

I think for some reason my mom likes to tie into that, it almost seems sadistic. But I am guessing she does this without thinking.

I unfortunately have a fairly vivid imagination. She likes to tell me sad stories and the more details she has the better I think she likes it. I have stated to her that she really doesn't need to tell me those things but it hasn't stopped her.

The other day she went to Evansville to the herding with me. Telling me about all the barns that have collapsed with this huge snow we had. One in particular she said there were two horses in the arena and they lost one. THEN she preceded to tell me they were afraid to try to get to the horse and it was jumping and lunging to try and get free and they shot it. Had to shoot it in the head twice and then the heart. She doesn't know if they even knew if it was all right or not. Next they took a chain saw and cut the other one out and it is ok.

Things like that just tend to stay with me. I don't know why, I do believe I will discuss it with my C. It isn't ANYTHING I can do anything about but I feel sad and dwell on it. Although when she was telling me this story I tried to almost just go into my mind and not block it per say but lots of self talk to myself and I think it helped some.

Why did you not stop her mid-stride? Something like " Mom, no disrespect intended but I really think I don't want to hear this story. You know how much I love horses and this doesn't sound as if it will have a good ending. I know your are just trying to keep me informed but this will just cause me some measure of pain and will probably give me nightmares. Thank you, I appreciate you respecting me in this. " Then smile at her and touch her arm reassuringly or something. That would probably be better for both of you and less rude then tuning her out...if your mom is anything like mine, they KNOW when you are tuning them out and it hurts them even more. Could be why she ended up going so in depth with the story...perhaps she KNEW it would push your buttons so she could get a little bit of her own back for being shut out?

Just a thought,
Zoo

Hi Zoo,

I have told her numerous times I don't like to hear stories like that one.

She KNOWS it. That is why I said it almost seems she does it on purpose.

Hi LNL,

I have worked at being able to stand up to mom and am better than I used to be but it generally just p*sses her off.

At least she doesn't do it all the time anymore.