Glad to hear I'm not the only one who sees this as unnatural and crazy. If the rest of our relationship sucked then I could understand. If one of us were ill or seriously overweight or depressed I could understand. We are just garden variety marrieds with a lot on our plate, still reasonable attractive for our age, reasonably fit, we love each other but.... WE DON'T HAVE SEX. Sometimes this has me so freaked out that I start looking for exotic reasons - I read an article in Oprah's mag about gay people who are married to straight people. I don't think that this is the case but I am running out of explanations. Half the time I don't care about the explanation I just want to see change. HP - I read through your list of goals - they are good and I may steal one or two of them.
I have wondered if my bf is gay... the other day I stood in front of him (he was seated at the computer) naked from the waist up. My (rather ample) breasts were in his face. He looked up at my face and did not look at my breasts at all. Did he think it would have been too forward? Did he think it improper? Was he offended that I was flaunting my body? Did he see it as a challenge... and by damn! he won't be challenged! Who knows?
But part of HOM is to stay calm but force the issue nonetheless. Lovingly confront what the other person is doing or not doing.
What did you say when he did nothing? Did you retreat in shame and say nothing? (which is most likely what I would have done, btw)
I think what he needs (besides a good swift kick to the balls, just to make sure they're still in working order;) is for you to say "Is there a reason why you are acting as if you don't see me standing here half naked? Can we talk about it?"
HOY is not just about sucking it up in the face of rejection. It's holding onto yourself WHILE you confront things head on.
Sounds like he needs a wake up call. Give him a good whack with the Amplies and see what happens.
Lillie wrote: -------------- ...the other day I stood in front of him (he was seated at the computer) naked from the waist up. My (rather ample) breasts were in his face. He looked up at my face and did not look at my breasts at all. --------------
Oh, so he has a streak of aggression in him. A bit of rebelliousness to make him feel better about himself.
His actions sound like resentment to me. What would that be about?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Lillie, I'm with HD on the idea of proving the "ampleness" claimed. Of course, I have a different reason to agree. HD just wants the cheap thrill of a look. I, OTOH, have just purchased a large, 3-D computer monitor, and wish to respond to the manufacturer on the accuracy of their claims of realistic size and feel of the subject photo.
So, you see, I'm just trying to improve the world through technology.
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