Yes Outsourcing. Couldn't think of the term for the life of me. My H has been laughing at me lately cause sleep deprivation is taking its toll on my vocabulary and spelling. And I HATE misspelling words! I know I misspelled one in this thread but danged if I have taken the time to look it up in the dictionary. I'm sure you use an online dictionary don'tcha. Call me a traditionalist but I like the feeling of thumbing thru the pages and looking through all the other words. Never know when you'll discover a gem like quotidian while you are looking up something mundane like quotient. Yesterday I couldn't think of the word "jeopardize". I kept running thru words thinking, It means to put something in harms' way......what is it...what is it...LOL.
What can I say, children make you stupid.
Btw, I agree with you on this one. And not just because it's my husband's job--and only income for my little family.
And now, dear readers, I'll go back to the regularly scheduled programming. Ah it's so nice to hijack your own thread, then there's no need to apologize.
Hhmmm ... outsourcing. Given that my house regularly contains a half dozen boys (friends of our foster sons) between the age of 17 and 22 that would be just too easy to do - probably not much in the "knowledge" department but stamina - Oh boy! Just joking - unfortunately H has a monopoly on this one.
HP - I feel yah. My H's business has been in a down cycle AND his football team is going to lose on Saturday and he is already using it as an excuse no to feel amorous during our date on Saturday. He said, "Well, if we're going out after the game on Saturday I'm not going to feel very romantic." Romantic? Hell, how about just a good old fashioned screw?
Karen, I don't think we've heard that one on the bb before...if the football team loses, you're SOL.
Well, I think WB's wife likes hockey but I don't think she uses it as an excuse. That's pretty cruddy to be thinking that far ahead!! And in a negative way, too. That is one of my pet peeves...don't make up your mind that far in advance for petes sakes. You never know what will happen. Nothing like making up your mind and then telling your body how it will feel. How ridiculous!
I drew up my list of goals and posted it in a clear place for me to see and be reminded of it every day.
My turnip is really making an effort. Well, he made an effort last night, lol, perhaps my optimism is a little premature??
Seriously I am far from optimistic but I am pleased nonetheless. He came up to me last night and kissed me all over my forehead, my cheeks, my lips, my shoulders. It was wonderful! The whole time he was making eye contact and telling me how much he loved me. Yumyum. It lasted perhaps a minute. I reciprocated as much as I could (this is one of my goals) but I was burping the baby at the time and couldn't get too close. I looked at him and said, H if you did this once a day, you'd never hear another word outta me. He laughed and continued to kiss me until baby did indeed burp and we then turned our attention to her and what a lovely baby she is for doing such an amazing thing.
Nowwwww, this is not entirely true and H knows it. I would not be satisfied with passionate affection for the rest of my life. BUT it is a starting point. As you all know, it is incredibly difficult to climb into bed with someone and get all up der business if you aren't accustomed to doing that already. We give lots of hugs and pecks in our house but.....well.....you know what I mean right? They are not really packed with emotion. The sentiment behind them might best be described as "you are a good person" rather than "I love you and need you". This showing of a deeper emotion, coupled with an extended amount of physical affection that has a different 'tone' leads to a higher comfort level, come bedtime. Then when we crawl (collapse?) into bed with each other, the ice has been broken. It does not feel awkward to get up in his bidness cause I've already been there, that evening. If nothing happens, that's okay, because we have shared ourselves with each other anyway. Again, I'd still have to have the real thing more often than not, so I don't want it to sound like Honey could subsist on a diet of sexy hugs, no way.
But this is all part of the greater equation.
Honeypot
P.S. Speaking of diets, I have lost a grand total of 8.5 lbs so far! Yeah!
Quote: We give lots of hugs and pecks in our house but.....well.....you know what I mean right? They are not really packed with emotion. The sentiment behind them might best be described as "you are a good person" rather than "I love you and need you".
This is the way it is at the Lily Pad, too. (BTW, you are also my soul mate! )
Congrats on the weight loss. I am in the postpartum plateau stage. I need to lose about four more pounds to be completely comfortable in my work clothes but I am actually at an acceptable weight for my height.
How old is baby now?
We are experts in the hug/peck/you are a good person department. If I even got a little hand on the back of the neck during the peck I would feel a little better. A light rain of kisses like you had? Heaven.
HoneyBaby is 6 wks old now; will be 7 weeks old on Sunday. Time flies!
Yes it was heavenly. He really makes an effort when he remembers to (read: when I light a fire under his youknowwhat). I just sent an email telling him how much I enjoyed it and that I am still thinking about it (which is true!) and he responded back that now HE was thinking about it.
I think that if he were more at ease with thinking of me in a romantic and/or sexual way throughout his day, this process would be much easier.
OUCH! that is cutting. I've just gotten around to this thread and Honey, I sympathize with you so much and commend you for getting right to it and trying to fix it NOW instead of what I did. Cry myself to sleep.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
Get him to the Dr. to see if anything is broken. Best senario is for a pill to make him feel wonderful to rid the shame! You may have to push kicking and screaming but wouldnt it be horrible if it were something serious or easily remedied!
About 15 years ago I pushed to get H to see a Dr. At that time all bloodwork came back normal(yea right). There were a couple things I thought the withholding might be, fear of preg for one. I thought if he got the "snip" that may make a difference, vastly. (hey if you dont have humor at this time what do we have?) The Dr. told H that I really should be the one to get my tubes tied, since it was normally the W that didnt want children. H told Dr. that since he was older than me by 13 years, that should something happen to him in a car accident or so, that then I would beable to have a "normal' life. The Dr. would not do it to him.
I never found out if the Dr. said anything else.
This past year, I pushed him to go for a physical and some suspicious lumps looked at. It was like pulling teeth. Finally after 9 months of pushing, and it turning angry, he finally went. This Dr. said all there was was the implant. Its "funny" he does show a reaction, and when his guard is down, like it was when I was a sniveling pile of crying gue, H gave me a real sincere hug. I kissed his hand, things happened, he turned away and "composed" himself. What is this guarding? He may be ED but I know so much of what isnt going on is in his head. (ooh how I hate that thought no matter who says it)
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
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