A while back, someone mentioned/wrote that I should get rid of the TV that W and I have in our bedroom. Well, as luck would have it, the TV in our bedroom decided to fry one of its components 2 weeks ago, so it has been "out for repairs" at my inlaws (FIL is an electronics repairman). I got to see how my W is without TV at night, and boy is it NOT pretty! She goes absolutely nuts without a TV to fall asleep to.
Anyways, I took the opportunity of no TV to talk a little more with W. It was nice to just catch up on things at night, but we really didn't have any in-depth conversations. And, as it became more apparent to us that FIL would not be fixing the TV anytime soon, I went out and bought another 27" one at Wal*Mart on Saturday.
Well, guess what happened on Saturday night? W "initiated" in her usual way: turn on the TV, put in a porno, get out the corded massager, and lie naked on the bed & "start something." After her "O" or three, she grabbed my shoulder and pulled me on top of her. 5 minutes later, we were done.
On Tuesday this week, I decided to initiate LM, even though it was 11PM (after The Amazing Race). W was up for it immediately, much to my surprise. I went first, taking an extra long time to just enjoy being close. Then, I used my and enjoyed being her source of pleasure (no porno this time). It was good and different.
So, there was some light in my life this week. I know that there are tons of issues to deal with in the M, but as long as we're ML then the other issues seem less important. That's just how I feel today.
I just gotta say... or state... that I'm sorry I wasted your time and thought process on my sitch. I guess I'll just work through things on my own. ------------
I thought I had posted to Cemar, in another thread. If I posted that to you, then it was an accident.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I hadn't seen a post from you to me in a few weeks, so I just thought maybe you'd given up following my "saga." Sorry if I jumped the gun. You can still give up if ya like.
I used to suffer primarily from 2 situations in my life, lack-o-time and lack-o-nooky.
These days, I only suffer from the lack-o-time situation :-) That unfortunately dictates my reading and posting schedule...
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I agree with HP about the porn, Chris. If my W absolutely HAD to watch others having sex to get ready for me, I would want to be one of the ones she was watching. At least then I would be "warmed up" when she got there and wouldn't be left out waiting for her first three Os.
I wonder how she would respond to that suggestion?
Quote: Have you ever told your wife that you don't like the normal routine for ML (the porno, massager, etc)?
It's not that I don't like it (I do! I do! )... but... EVERY time? I suppose there's something to be said about finding a good recipe and sticking with it, but one of my problems is that W seems not to want variety. I must bring up this "lack of variety" in a kind way so that she doesn't see it as criticism.
barney wrote:
Quote: I agree with HP about the porn, Chris. If my W absolutely HAD to watch others having sex to get ready for me, I would want to be one of the ones she was watching. At least then I would be "warmed up" when she got there and wouldn't be left out waiting for her first three Os.
I don't mind it all that much. If she's not turned on by me or my body, oh well.
- Chris.
I wonder how she would respond to that suggestion?
Ya know, compared to others here, I guess I don't really have a SSM.
I could be having sex with my W 2-3 times a week if I initiated the LM. She has NEVER said "no" to me verbally when I started somethin'. I just don't initiate for one reason or other.
Also, my W initiates when it's been 3-4 weeks since LM. She watches porn to get stimulated too! Sounds like she's not really anti-sex after all.
I'm reading DR in the hopes of figuring out how to deal with W's depression, low self-esteem, and lack of desire. I'm not saying anything more to W about fixing the M 'cause it's obvious that she doesn't think anything is wrong. I'll just keep working on me and see how it goes.
and enjoyed being her source of pleasure (no porno this time). It was good and different.
