Wildebube...ahhhhhh. Corri...ehhhhh? That's pretty freaky. I'm guessing Honeypot's name is Trisha. And, as for you sewing up a storm, HP, that sounds a lot like "nesting" behavior. I bet you go into labor this afternoon or evening.
I got back to my office from a lunch with another lawyer, a woman, and had a message from W that she was "out in front" of my building, and wondered if I wanted lunch. She had just been in a hearing in the courthouse next door. She had also left an email message. I returned the email message, indicating that I had been out to lunch with J. I think my W thinks that J is my "girlfriend" who she referred to a couple weeks ago (remember? she asked how my girlfriend was?). J is definitely not girlfriend material, not my type at all, but W has never met her. We'll see what happens.
Annette, I got a book from the library and then, true to my nature, did it my way anyway.
The first one I did was realllllly hard but then I learned from all those mistakes and now can do it somewhat fast. Faster now that I am trying to take my mind off the fact that I have a 2500 lb baby living inside me that refuses to evacuate.
Thank you all for playing with me today. You have no idea how much it means to me to have people entertaining me when my mood is so foul that I could kill with one hand tied behind my back.
No to Trisha and Jenny, though we do have one HD Jenny on the Board.
It is an eeee sounding name, so good guess.
HD, that is intriguing about the girlfriend-but-not-really. I wonder if this is good for the situation or not? I don't know. NOP would probably be able to answer this better than me. I think personally that it doesn't hurt her to think that there are other women out there who might be interested in having a man like you, but at the same time it does no good to purposely foster the feeling that it is a specific PERSON. (which I don't think you are doing, btw)
I will say that being unavailable to her might be a good thing, once in a while. It is good for all of us, after all.
Have you tried Castor oil? Oh, no, that makes other things evacuate.....
Honey must be going for a world record with a baby that big. Wow, a one ton baby.....Film at 11. I think I will pass on the home videos of the birth if you don't mind....Not that I'm squeemish or anything.
Corri said: --------------- Is the picture beginning to emerge here? ---------------
I think so. Here is what I am initially seeing.
Your husband is suffering from insecurity, jealousy, and a basic lack of confidence.
He can't equate your needs with his because you constantly complete/fix his failings.
Planning the trip. What you might consider the next time something comes up for him to perform (planning, whatever), that you let him fail. Do be willing to *help* cleanup after the mess, but under his instruction - don't take charge.
You are a very competent woman. He finds himself intimidated somewhat (possibly a lot) by you. You have to let him be the hero enough for him to be able to appreciate what you do for him. He obviously doesn't mind taking credit for your efforts. In a proper relationship, he would be bragging on your efforts and accomplishments, not claiming them for his own.
Again, he cann't see the extent of the communication problem in your relationship if you always bail him out.
Having said all that, I do realize that in a loving relationship, we do for each other because of love and desire. That effort has to be arrived at through some struggle however. We have to learn basic respect for each other. I know you are very boundary oriented. I think you need to shift a few at least temporarily until hubby can 'get it'. Just remember to do it in a loving way (I've no doubt that you would).
What do you think?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
HD said: ----------------- I got back to my office from a lunch with another lawyer, a woman, and had a message from W that she was "out in front" of my building, and wondered if I wanted lunch. She had just been in a hearing in the courthouse next door. She had also left an email message. I returned the email message, indicating that I had been out to lunch with J. I think my W thinks that J is my "girlfriend" who she referred to a couple weeks ago (remember? she asked how my girlfriend was?). J is definitely not girlfriend material, not my type at all, but W has never met her. We'll see what happens. -----------------
Invite your wife to lunch with J and you.
That will allay your wife's fears but also let her see that you are capable of getting along with someone very different from her.
You may both learn something different from the experience.
How was that HoneyPot?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I think that's a good idea, Nopkins. My W has been emailing me, commenting that it seems like it was a LONG lunch, wondering why she didn't see me exit the building...she seems suspicious. This woman, J, is definitely not my type. I just had to work with her on a case and we got along nicely. I also found out that she's a school board member in my kids' district, and I thought it would be a good opportunity to vent about some school district issues, which I did.
If W keeps it up, I think a joint lunch is a good idea. Whoa, a threesome!
