Nobody is Attacking you!!!!!!!!!!!!! You both seem to have a defeatist attitude. That is not going to work. Listen to what the people here say and have experienced. You guys have got to start really listening to each other. I know its hard to believe and trust that things will be different when it starts out that way and falls back to the SOS. Maybe you two can make a promise to each other to not let that happen. Just a suggestion.
Hairdog, I can always count on you to find JUST the thing to help me. You must be outstanding in the gift giving department, when it comes to your wife.
The sick thing is...my H would like the cattle prod idea. He would welcome anything that helped him sassify his wife and he would feel that he deserved a little pain for being such a nincompoop and falling asleep while ML to me.
I find it hard to believe that ED is a situational thing. Either you have it or you don't!! When his equip works with outside stimulus and not with just me as the stimulator it leads me to believe that it is obviously something wrong or unattractive about me. Probably not what he will agree with but nonetheless how I feel
how about if you two watched a porn movie together and while doing this he was giving you praise. would that make you feel more attractive? The outcome would be what you want, right?
I watch porn with him... I have even been the one to order it for HIM!! I have tried to get him to understand that he DOESNT have a problem....he has a defeatist attitude. I try and prove to him all the time that when he just relaxes and lets things happen they work. That is why I have NEVER told him no when he actually initiates (even if I am not really into it) I know I will be shortly so I just go with it. I also want to point out that when things are "working" our ML sessions are incredible!!!! He is very attentive and very loving.
Fuzzy, Can you imagine falling asleep while recieving head?
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
I think you need to get a book on ED and read up on it.
It is not as simple as what you are making it out to be (relax), especially in light of the fact that he is nervous and ashamed, etc. How can he relax and enjoy it when he is always worried that it won't work and you will be disappointed? That is a tremendous amount of pressure.
I feel for you but this is a problem that BOTH of you are handling incorrectly, imo. Try to see it from his POV and work towards a middle ground. I fear that if you keep holding out for him to do things your way, you will always be disappointed and lose out on what could be a great sexual R.
Hey look at that more critizism. I thought this place was supposed to be helpful!!! I guess the old bastard with the cattle prod shoved up his nose was wrong again!!!!!!!!
In all honesty I dont think I have ever tried to get him to do things my way. But I will investigate the ED issue more thouroughly so I can get a good perspective on it. I would do anything to make US better but I am not sure that I know of anything else to do. Everything seems to put more pressure on him.
