Here's how I am going about losing weight. I have lost about 4 kilos in three and a half weeks. Steady sustained weight loss is always preferable to sudden loss, isn't it?
I gave up tea and coffee on a regular basis. I endured throbbing headaches for a couple of days, then it eased off. Now I just drink water, and only occasionally a glass of wine or decaf coffee if in company. I try to drink water whenever I remember to, also when feeling a bit peckish, it takes the edge off my appetite before I eat.
I eat mostly fruit for breakfast, and at most a slice or two of bread with some cheese besides.
Lunch I eat more or less what I want, but I try to make a good part of the meal salad or vegetables in some way. I only have ONE helping, NO SECONDS! I go easy on the carbs, but haven't eliminated them. I am nearly vegetarian. And I try to avoid excess salt.
Early evening, I may allow myself a snack if really hungry, or just some fruit for dinner.
When I wake up the next morning I don't have a growling stomach at all! The couple of times I have eaten a heavy (read: normal) meal at night, I have woken up with 'hunger pangs' or a growling stomach next morning. I don't find it hard to stick to the light evening regime, I even cook D a nice meal, and make extra to have myself at lunch the next day, it saves me cooking again!
Also, I get up 40 minutes earlier than I need in order to do some toning and stretching exercises. A combination of Pilates and Callentics, and other stuff I like. and of course, I get around by bike all day, but on the flat.
Result: I don't have continual cravings and hunger pangs. I found the sip of coke at D's party yesterday too sweet. My stomach has gone down. The remaining flab I have is more firm!
At the doctor's today, for something unrelated to do with daughter, I asked to have my blood pressure taken, and it is 125 over 80. What do you say to that, Ellie, is that good?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
I wonder if you'd mind taking a look at this Q from 9/21 again, Ellie...
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Quote: somehow when he feels worried I might abandon him, he loses the ability to offer me comfort in my pain - does that make any sense?
can I ask how you've handled the reassurance thing before? It's great that you called him on it and he came through, but has anything else worked in the past? Sometimes, it seems like they are letting you "win" if you ask for reassurance and they give it to you. S. used to do this and it drove me batty. I'd ask for reassurance and he'd get annoyed with me for being "demanding."
Well, actually, in my case it has helped to be really specific about what i need him to do. If I tell him "I need you to put your arms around me and tell me I'm fabulous" he'll do it - of course, he'll do it NOW, he never would have before! And I don't care if he only did it because I told him to - I realize that sometimes he just doesn't know what to do.
I'll admit, it does still tick me off to feel like I really can't count on him to give me the same kind of support in a crisis that I give him - but I understand better now that it's more about his limitations than about his intentions.
Quote: I'll admit, it does still tick me off to feel like I really can't count on him to give me the same kind of support in a crisis that I give him - but I understand better now that it's more about his limitations than about his intentions.
THWACK!!!!
That one hit me right upside the head, Ellie.
Wow.
btw, I posted how to get in touch with me over on my thread, for your upcoming trip, but I'll post it here: JinBklyn[at]yahoo[.com].
Now I have to stagger off to meet S. to watch the debate with the above quote rattling in my thick skull. One question, though - a rhetorical one: How is it that THEY always have the limitations and WE are the ones killing ourselves to overcome them?
