Both my pregnancies were exactly 40 weeks long to the day. One good thing about having a LDH is that it's pretty easy to figure out the exact date of conception. Both births were natural but I had to have my water broken both times. The midwife said that I probably would have ended up with born in the sac babies if they didn't do it.
I had an appendectomy when I was 6 mos. pregnant with D(13). My uterus was in the way of my appendix so D(13) was actually out of my abdomen and out in the bright lights for a little while 3 mos. before she was born (the uterus is only semi-opaque). I've always wondered if she might have been awake or whether the general anesthetic would have traveled through the umbilical cord and knocked her out too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I don’t post much over in this section but lurk quite a bit and have been following your latest thread (and Mojo’s) with great interest. My W and I are separated right now, partly because of some SSM issues, hence my “lurker” rather than "active participant" status over here.
Over on Mojo's thread you posted about an article your H brought home about how the suggestion of divorce allows a black cloud to enter the home and hang there. Any chance you could provide a link or other identifying info on where that article originated? Thanks!
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p.s. Best of luck with the final weeks of your pg!!
Lately I have been trying to pay attention to the little signs that my h gives off, rather than waiting for the big bang, which aint gonna happen. They are THERE but they are verrry subtle. In fact, I sometimes miss them myself...or rather, I see it but it doesn't register until I am walking away and then I think, Wait a minute! He had his lips parted during that peck!!
I vascillate back and forth between feeling nice and loving and being willing to "encourage" him to take these small signs further and being stubborn and thinking, Oh good grief, get over yourself already and show me some REAL desire. Today is a good day, lol.
Friday night H initiated and was very horny. Now, I know that it was physical horniness and not anything having to do with me per se, but still I took it and enjoyed the attention. Then no other signs, big or small, til last night when he came to tell me he was going to bed. I stood up and he kissed me and it was a nice and engaged kiss. I knew from this that he was feeling something, but I wasn't sure what. It didn't progress into sex (though I tried!) but I know that for a moment he was feeling sexy.
One interesting thing I have noticed about my H...and I don't know if this is an LD thing or not but I suspect it is..is that their feelings of sexuality are completely generated by how sexy they are feeling at that moment. That is, my H rarely looks at ME and gets turned on but he can easily get turned on by the thought of him being able to turn me on. It is a subtle but important distinction I think. Whereas your typical HD person gets turned on by their mate and doesn't think as much about themselves. H will physically feel horny and then seek me out. This system works okaayyyyyy I guess but it is not the ideal for ME.
Again, sometimes this really bothers me and other times I'm okay with it. Today I'm ok with it but I do find it interesting how differently we approach our sexuality. His is almost entirely body-based and not partner-based. Mine would be a combination of them both, I suppose.
Last night I couldn't sleep and I wanted SO badly to initiate something with H. I woke him up and "felt him out" but there was nothing indicating he wanted to play so I dropped it. I feel like a bit of a copout for doing this. I have never initiated in the middle of the night but, my goodness, my H has. Hundreds of times probably. So there SHOULD be no reason for me to feel afraid, after all, he has no leg to stand on about it being rude or what have you. But......I wimped out. I did tell him this morning that I wanted to but felt apprehensive and he laughed it off.
Tonight, though.....tonight's the night. I think my body will rebel if it doesn't get some attn, pronto.
Well the original point of this ramblage was to say that I intend to continue looking for those small signs of his desire and draw them out. In the past, I have been guilty of getting all weird when he does show desire because I am so unaccustomed to it. I sortof pull this "what, who me??" bit when he does and it has to ruin the mood for him. I haven't done it in a while but neither have I gotten aggressive and encouraged him to keep it going. It's not really the right time for that (a little over a week to go!) but still I need to be thinking of these things so that they stay fresh in my mind. I find with H that there can be no break at all in us acting and living as lovers. We can't take a week off and be friends and then seamlessly go back to being lovers. It has to be a constant thread weaving in and out of our lives or it all goes to pot.
I think the postpartum period will be interesting. I will finally get to see him horny and dying for me (can you all say major ASSumption there!) so that will be a nice change of pace. After D5 was born, he was trying to have sex with me ONE WEEK after I delivered. This was the guy who wouldn't touch me all through the pregnancy and who was struggling mightily at that time with religious issues. So I have hope that he will have sufficient time to build up some good old fashioned horniness for me in the 4 weeks or so that I will be healing.
Hey Honeypot...before you leave for the hospital, you have to give us a "heads up." This is so we can all wring our hands and worry about you until we hear back.
As for the honeypot-pool, I'm betting: 1. Male 2. 8 pounds, 11 ounces 3. September 19, 6pm.
I have very long labors and will likely be in labor for at least a day before baby is born so I'll have plenty of time to write and say, This is it!
I need to warn you though, Hairy, that my last two babies were overdue by 10 days and then 1 week. My official due date is the 21st, so you might want to amend your arrival day. How's that for playing favorites in the Honey Baby Pool!
Although the rest was fine with me. 8lbs, 11oz is not too bad--definitely doable. Male would be okay too, so that poor H is not so outnumbered by the chicks.
Oh and no trip to the hospital for us..I'll be right here at home so I will update when I can. Although with my last we went to the library and out to eat and did some shopping while I labored, so they might be few and far between.
Maybe we should bet on whether the baby will turn out to be HD or LD. Though it would be hard to make this a fair bet because those who bet on HD would collect much sooner than those who bet LD.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Mo, I am so tired right now that when I first read that message I read: "Maybe we should bet on whether the baby turns out to be HD's..." meaning, hairdoggie's! LOLOL
Hey, lying awake for over 2 hours agonizing over initiating will do that to a person. I am such a nincompoop! I shoulda either went for it or gotten up and did something productive. I sent out all the signals to H that I was up for it but he wasn't responding whatsoever. I should have done the JustGrabIt method (hereafter known as JGI) but would have had to fight to HOM throughout the crabbing and jumping and skittish behavior and indignant huffiness before he gave into my charms.
Oh well when I finally did fall asleep I did indeed have a dream about Hairdog, who was confronting my husband in an angry fashion but I never got to the bottom of what he was peeved at my h about.
Quote: Oh well when I finally did fall asleep I did indeed have a dream about Hairdog, who was confronting my husband in an angry fashion but I never got to the bottom of what he was peeved at my h about.
I think HD's anger at your H would be analogous to the anger that a starving child from some third world country would feel when observing a spoiled american tourist child pick at his food and then throw it in the trash. Except that analogy doesn't really work because I don't think HD would waste too much time being angry. I imagine him diving face first into the dumpster to retrieve the honey sandwich.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Both births were natural but I had to have my water broken both times. The midwife said that I probably would have ended up with born in the sac babies if they didn't do it. 
