Is that 43 dog years? I had a b-day this past Monday, and I was treated well by the family. I even got to sleep alone with W. It's a good time to ask for things, I'd say.
Thanks all, and a special thanks to Mojo for the lap dance! But let's go immediately to our embedded reporter, for the latest: Thanks, Hairdog. Last night was significant for the following conversation: W: So, Hairdog, do you want a cake? H: (thinking about yesterday's cake and icing thread on SSM and laughing to himself). Yes. W: Oh, Hmmmm. About 10 minutes later.... W: So, are you sure you want a cake? H: Uh, yes. W: Is it okay if I just go out and buy one? H: (Hdog goes manipulative here...probably a mistake) Well, I made one for your birthday. W: I'm not sure I'll have time. H: I took a couple hours off of work to make your cake. W: (getting angry) well, thanks, that makes me feel good. Your getting awfully demanding. (Here, I thought she was referencing my request that the only thing I wanted for my birthday was ML) H: Why do you say that? W: Because first you asked to go out to dinner, and now you're wanting me to make a cake. (Not only did I mis-read the reference to ML, I had already forgotten about wanting to go out to dinner. And, pardon me, what's so "demanding" about telling someone that, on your birthday you'd like to go out to dinner?) W: I'm starting to feel the same way about your birthday as you felt about your ex-W's birthday. (Now wait a sec. My ex required me to spend lots of money, and make not only the day special, but the entire week special for her. And she would rarely be pleased with the results. How is a cake and dinner like that?) Exit Hairdog, who goes downstairs, steaming, and realizes that his W is a fairly lousy cook. Enter Hairdog H: You know what, don't worry about making me a cake. A store-bought one is fine. W: (Relaxing) okay, it's just that you were really starting to lay the guilt trip on me and... H: (not wanting to go there because I'm sick of fighting and know that I didn't lay anything on her) let's not talk about it. A store-bought cake is fine.
No further conversation about birthdays or cakes ensued that evening.
No sex ensued this morning. A hug and grandmotherly kiss was given to Hairdog, however.
Oh, and when I got to work, my co-workers had bought a HUGE cake that I can take home, so I called W and told her not to buy a cake after all. She was fine with that.
Hairdog, who knows exactly where Effingham is, thank you.
I think you were right to back off on the baking a cake issue. I'm a good baker and I usually make a cake for my H's birthday but if I'm really busy it can be tricky since baking a cake is something you can't do too far beforehand. On the other hand, my H is perfectly happy with a purchased cake or even just candles in a lasagne. If he ever indicated that a homemade cake would be super special, I would certainly figure out how to manage it. I don't understand her comment about taking you out to dinner. What is the other option? Either she will have to cook you a b-day dinner or she expects you to cook dinner on your b-day.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Effingham's in Illinois, right? Right along I-57. I know, cuz I went to college at SIU-Carbondale, and we used to drive right past it.
Sorry to hear about your "special" day, Hairdog. On father's day, my wife didn't even WRAP my gifts. I reached into a bag and grabbed 'em, one at a time, with my eyes closed. Got no card, either, and CERTAINLY didn't get no nookie.
In fact, I think the last time I got nookie, oil was about $32 a barrel . . .
She doesn't want to bake for you (she shouldn't have waited too long to ask, because if she was going to bake she woulda done it last night before bed time), she thinks it's a hassle going out to dinner, and ML is iffy at best. Maybe she should just give you a role of $20s for your trip to the strip club.
Have a happy fricken Bday anyway.
SM, who preceded HD in life by 1 year and 22 days and is not a big fan of Bdays anymore.
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
I had a b-day this past Monday, and I was treated well by the family. I even got to sleep alone with W. It's a good time to ask for things, I'd say. 
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