Quote: As much as Barn would hate to admit it, certain women such as ourselves have men at an extreme disadvantage in the "O" department for strength, intensity, sensation, multiplicity, and explosiveness. I really worry about him since he just has that one
LOL. I don't know about strength, intensity, sensation too subjective to judge IMO. I think we girls would definitely win in terms of multiplicity and recovery time. I'm inclined to give the guys the trophy for explosiveness and actual frequency of spontaneous physical arousal. I "can" orgasm 12x a day, but I have never "wanted" to orgasm 12x a day. This line of thought is now depressing me because I just realized that I have never spent the whole day in bed with a willing HD partner, so I have no idea what my spontaneous level of arousal limit might be.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
MM said: --------------- This line of thought is now depressing me because I just realized that I have never spent the whole day in bed with a willing HD partner, so I have no idea what my spontaneous level of arousal limit might be. ---------------
I have spent the day in bed with lovers at times. It was fun, I was young.
My personal record is 8 orgasms in 5 hours. There were 4 different women. It would have been possible to do more, but having sex for 5 straight hours leaves one to face practical considerations such as showers and personal hygiene. You would not believe how bad you can stink after a few hours of sex. (sorry if that is gross)
As for solo Os, I have never counted, but I am sure that some days could have easily seen 5 times IF there was nothing else to do. When a man NEEDS to masturbate 5 times a day everyday, it might be time to seek some professional help, and I don't mean a prostitute :-)
I have been in 'contests' My group of friends used to have them regularly for all kinds of challenges. The prizes were never more than applause (thankfully not the clap). It was mostly just an excuse to screw. As I look back on it, it isn't nearly as exciting as it sounds.
MM, don't be depressed. I have learned that having a good relationship with someone I love is worth more than ALL the memories of my sexual escapades. In fact, I wish I could selectively erase some of the scenes etched into my brain.
I believe that you and your husband will find a compromise in your relationship that keeps both of you happy. I believe that because I believe that you won't stop trying, and from what you have written, I believe that your husband loves you and won't stop trying either. I think that is a pretty good place to find yourself.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Truly a bizarre conversation from a LD woman. And I would bet my wife would think just the same as yours. I guess to a LD, anyone with a sex drive is kind of strange. Just like us HD's can not understand the thoughts of a LD.
I have always wondered why a LD woman would NOT want her husband to have an affair. If sex is just sex, then if the husband goes elsewhere to have the sex, why should it bother the LD women in the slightest? In fact, LD woman shoulf openly WANT their husbands to cheat on them, that would take all the pressure off of them to have sex, and is that not what they want? So if the husbands affair bothers the LD women, then she must know deep down sex is CRUCIAL to a good relationship.
If sex is just sex, then if the husband goes elsewhere to have the sex, why should it bother the LD women in the slightest? In fact, LD woman shoulf openly WANT their husbands to cheat on them, that would take all the pressure off of them to have sex, and is that not what they want? So if the husbands affair bothers the LD women, then she must know deep down sex is CRUCIAL to a good relationship.
I would think it would bother them because most people have expressed that its not "just" the sex they want but the EC with their spouse. You said yourself if I recall you don't want just sex with your W you want her to "want" you, to "desire" you. If you go out and strike up a physical relationship with someone, isn't there a chance that an EC could follow with said raltionship? I would think then there would be a chance of the unhappy person leaving the marriage. I could see why a LD spouse would not want the other to get it from someplace else.
Annette, this is exactly why my W would prefer that I go to a prostitute rather than have an affair. She has told me as much. And I have told her that what I want is the emotional connection with her, and ML with her. It doesn't matter. It's that I'm not listening to her, or I don't want to move to a new house, or that she's too tired, or ______ whatever.
Quote: I heard a bit of a "lewd" radio talk show yesterday morning.
That wouldn't be the MCM show, would it?
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Query: Why don't you tell your wife "Honey, I want you to put all your energy into developing yourself sexually so I am going to hire a housekeeper, cook and nanny. Please indulge any sensual or social urge you might have if it helps you to relax and feel more sexual. I have purchased a hot tub and a chaise longue and arranged for a daily massage. Please let me know if there is anything else I might provide. I stand ready to serve. Your pleasure is my only goal." -------------------------
I did this very thing when we first M. I've always been willing to hire out whatever work hinders our sex life. After 23 years, we now have a housecleaning service once every 2 weeks. It didn't increase our sexual activity, though.
Mike - who realized a long time ago that EVERYBODY pays for sex, just in different ways
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